A story tells that two friends were walking through the desert. During some point of the journey they had an argument, and one friend slapped the other one in the face.
The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything, wrote in the sand:
TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SLAPPED ME IN THE FACE.
They kept on walking until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath. The one who had been slapped got stuck in the mire and started drowning, but the friend saved him.
After he recovered from the near drowning, he wrote on a stone:
TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SAVED MY LIFE.
The friend who had slapped and saved his best friend asked him, "After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand and now, you write on a stone, why?"
The other friend replied "When someone hurts us we should write it down in sand where winds of forgiveness can erase it away. But, when someone does something good for us, we must engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it."
LEARN TO WRITE YOUR HURTS IN THE SAND AND TO CARVE YOUR BENEFITS IN STONE.
Friday, February 29, 2008
Thursday, February 28, 2008
Saint Theresa's Prayer - by Unknown Author
May today there be peace within. May you trust God that you are exactly where you are meant to be. May you not forget the infinite possibilitie s that are born of faith. May you use those gifts that you have received, and pass on the love that has been given to you. May you be content knowing you are a child of God. Let this presence settle into your bones, and allow your soul the freedom to sing, dance, praise and love. It is there for each and every one of us.
Wednesday, February 27, 2008
I Wake Up Today Grateful - by Grant Cardone
I wake up today grateful to be alive and grateful to have this one day that lies ahead of me.
I wake up today grateful to have opportunities and commit myself to making the most of them.
I wake up today grateful to be able to work and will do everything possible to get results today.
I wake up grateful for my mental capabilities and will use my mind to solve problems.
I wake up today grateful for problems and will put attention on solving them, not causing them.
I wake up today grateful for my attitude and will use it to make others smile and commit to spreading good news, not bad news.
I wake up today grateful for the power of choice and use that power to choose how I act today.
I wake up today, grateful for even being grateful. Pass this on to others- It might make someone grateful!
- Grant Cardone
www.grantcardone.com
I wake up today grateful to have opportunities and commit myself to making the most of them.
I wake up today grateful to be able to work and will do everything possible to get results today.
I wake up grateful for my mental capabilities and will use my mind to solve problems.
I wake up today grateful for problems and will put attention on solving them, not causing them.
I wake up today grateful for my attitude and will use it to make others smile and commit to spreading good news, not bad news.
I wake up today grateful for the power of choice and use that power to choose how I act today.
I wake up today, grateful for even being grateful. Pass this on to others- It might make someone grateful!
- Grant Cardone
www.grantcardone.com
Tuesday, February 26, 2008
Becoming a Force of Nature – By JK Ellis
There are people who live their lives as if they were a force of nature. They seem to always get what they desire and be unaffected by the events around them. Around these people others make it a rule to follow them or get out of their way. These "forces of nature" can be violent and demanding, or seductive and compelling, or both. They often personify an energy. This energy may be specific or undefined in nature.
An example is the fictional Darth Vader who personifies an energy of sheer will.
A living example of this type of persona is Playboy magazine founder, Hugh Hefner, who is the personification of the power of hedonistic fulfillment and Eros.
Napoleon Bonaparte, Salvador Dali, Gambino crime boss John Gotti, and former president Bill Clinton are others to name a few. Not all of these "forces of nature" seek fame. Many aspire only to live their lives as they wish.
Have you ever met someone who lives life as if they are force of nature?
When you've taken the opportunity to speak with them, what you'll learn is that they can tell you exactly what they are going to accomplish. They will tell you this with a calm and unshakable sense of certainty. They may even seem as if they have already accomplished it or as if they have seen the future and have come back to tell you what will happen.
Because they have thought so thoroughly about what they want and how they want to live as they go after it, unforeseen events are rare and of little consequence.
The worst thing an unforeseen event might do is delay the inevitable attainment of their goal.
When the unforeseen occurs, they have a plan on how they will respond. That is the depth of their self-understanding.
Anyone who is within the presence of these rare people will feel both a soothing calmness and an unstoppable force emanating from their character.
Upon first evaluation, one might conclude that these living monoliths of achievement are motivated by endless ambition, but that would be inaccurate. Rather, they are moved by an unshakable sense of destiny.
While these people appear human in every way, they seem to move through the world more like a force of nature in and of themselves. Life is an adventure, and their goals and accomplishments are landmarks and milestones of their journey. They view success and failure with an unwavering detachment.
Their intent is so firm that all they know is their goal will be accomplished. Time is of no consequence to them because, like a god looking down from Mount Olympus, eventually all will transpire as they have laid it out and neither the winds, the waters, nor the wills of man can stop them.
They make their achievements seem easy and cause us to ask, "Why shouldn't I be able to do what they do?"
This is the life YOU could live; all you must do is choose it.
* Your Outward Appearance
This section is not about dressing for success because even an idiot can do that. This is about your presentation as a person and how you move and interact with those around you.
The first advice is simple: Move as if you have a purpose. Moving as if you have a purpose means moving as if you are not just pulled though space but also through time. You are being pulled in the direction of your goals.
This is important for two reasons. The first is you do have a purpose, and even though you may never discuss it outwardly, it is through your purposeful actions and movements that others will take note and either assist you or move out of your way.
The second reason is more subtle and internal. When you move as if you have a purpose, you are intentionally affecting your physiology. Any actor trained in "method acting" will tell you that if you do enough outward expressions of an emotional state, you will begin to feel that emotional state take hold of you.
Moving with a purpose will strengthen every aspect of your purpose.
During the early part of the last century, a young reporter was instructed to visit Mohandas Gandhi at a hospice for the dying in India and ask to observe Gandhi as he went about his daily routine. What he observed seemed unapparent at first but quickly became obvious. Gandhi moved as if he was being pulled by some greater force. That force was his sense of purpose.
* Create a Mythology
One way to strengthen your sense of purpose is to create a mythology that describes your life and then live to fulfill it.
Many people have created their personal mythology from thin air and have often been revealed as frauds. To avoid this, remember that almost every good hero of mythical greatness begins with a humble origin. This holds true in the stories from the biblical Moses to the fictional Luke Skywalker. Start your mythology where you are at and build on it. By asking yourself, "What would the very best me do?" you can direct your course with acts that seem as though you are pulled in the direction of your greater purpose.
* Your Internal State Of Mind
There is a constant force that is created when we have a goal and make a plan to go after it. The force is that not everything will go our way, the difference between what we plan and what actually occurs. This is often referred to as "Friction." This Friction is a constant component of life; we plan one thing grandiose, and some unforeseen event stalls our progress.
Friction is not an enemy but a natural element which, like the weather, we can sometimes predict but seldom control. Fighting the friction of life is as futile as fighting a hurricane, so instead, let it become your teacher as you become it's most dutiful student.
What it teaches is the endless value of flexibility and being able to adapt to changing situations. There will always be friction; therefore, there will always be lessons to learn.
Friction cannot be pleaded with or manipulated. Friction is as cold and uncaring as the winter sea, but it can be a teacher as wise as Aristotle.
To become a Force of Nature, you must abandon whatever doubt you have, whether or not we each deserve to have what we deeply want. What is proposed is that you should get what you want -- if you know in precise detail what you want, if you know in precise detail the steps to getting it, if you are absolutely willing to do each step, and if you are flexible enough to embrace and adapt to the friction of life.
About the Author:
JK Ellis is a writer and occasional public speaker. He writes on the topic of mind control and has published two book on the subject: "Perfected Mind Control - The Unauthorized Black Book of Hypnotic Mind Control" and "Mind Control 101 - How To Influence the Thoughts and Actions of Others Without Them Knowing or Caring." Because of the controversial nature of his work, he seeks to maintain his anonymity and make very rare public appearances.
An example is the fictional Darth Vader who personifies an energy of sheer will.
A living example of this type of persona is Playboy magazine founder, Hugh Hefner, who is the personification of the power of hedonistic fulfillment and Eros.
Napoleon Bonaparte, Salvador Dali, Gambino crime boss John Gotti, and former president Bill Clinton are others to name a few. Not all of these "forces of nature" seek fame. Many aspire only to live their lives as they wish.
Have you ever met someone who lives life as if they are force of nature?
When you've taken the opportunity to speak with them, what you'll learn is that they can tell you exactly what they are going to accomplish. They will tell you this with a calm and unshakable sense of certainty. They may even seem as if they have already accomplished it or as if they have seen the future and have come back to tell you what will happen.
Because they have thought so thoroughly about what they want and how they want to live as they go after it, unforeseen events are rare and of little consequence.
The worst thing an unforeseen event might do is delay the inevitable attainment of their goal.
When the unforeseen occurs, they have a plan on how they will respond. That is the depth of their self-understanding.
Anyone who is within the presence of these rare people will feel both a soothing calmness and an unstoppable force emanating from their character.
Upon first evaluation, one might conclude that these living monoliths of achievement are motivated by endless ambition, but that would be inaccurate. Rather, they are moved by an unshakable sense of destiny.
While these people appear human in every way, they seem to move through the world more like a force of nature in and of themselves. Life is an adventure, and their goals and accomplishments are landmarks and milestones of their journey. They view success and failure with an unwavering detachment.
Their intent is so firm that all they know is their goal will be accomplished. Time is of no consequence to them because, like a god looking down from Mount Olympus, eventually all will transpire as they have laid it out and neither the winds, the waters, nor the wills of man can stop them.
They make their achievements seem easy and cause us to ask, "Why shouldn't I be able to do what they do?"
This is the life YOU could live; all you must do is choose it.
* Your Outward Appearance
This section is not about dressing for success because even an idiot can do that. This is about your presentation as a person and how you move and interact with those around you.
The first advice is simple: Move as if you have a purpose. Moving as if you have a purpose means moving as if you are not just pulled though space but also through time. You are being pulled in the direction of your goals.
This is important for two reasons. The first is you do have a purpose, and even though you may never discuss it outwardly, it is through your purposeful actions and movements that others will take note and either assist you or move out of your way.
The second reason is more subtle and internal. When you move as if you have a purpose, you are intentionally affecting your physiology. Any actor trained in "method acting" will tell you that if you do enough outward expressions of an emotional state, you will begin to feel that emotional state take hold of you.
Moving with a purpose will strengthen every aspect of your purpose.
During the early part of the last century, a young reporter was instructed to visit Mohandas Gandhi at a hospice for the dying in India and ask to observe Gandhi as he went about his daily routine. What he observed seemed unapparent at first but quickly became obvious. Gandhi moved as if he was being pulled by some greater force. That force was his sense of purpose.
* Create a Mythology
One way to strengthen your sense of purpose is to create a mythology that describes your life and then live to fulfill it.
Many people have created their personal mythology from thin air and have often been revealed as frauds. To avoid this, remember that almost every good hero of mythical greatness begins with a humble origin. This holds true in the stories from the biblical Moses to the fictional Luke Skywalker. Start your mythology where you are at and build on it. By asking yourself, "What would the very best me do?" you can direct your course with acts that seem as though you are pulled in the direction of your greater purpose.
* Your Internal State Of Mind
There is a constant force that is created when we have a goal and make a plan to go after it. The force is that not everything will go our way, the difference between what we plan and what actually occurs. This is often referred to as "Friction." This Friction is a constant component of life; we plan one thing grandiose, and some unforeseen event stalls our progress.
Friction is not an enemy but a natural element which, like the weather, we can sometimes predict but seldom control. Fighting the friction of life is as futile as fighting a hurricane, so instead, let it become your teacher as you become it's most dutiful student.
What it teaches is the endless value of flexibility and being able to adapt to changing situations. There will always be friction; therefore, there will always be lessons to learn.
Friction cannot be pleaded with or manipulated. Friction is as cold and uncaring as the winter sea, but it can be a teacher as wise as Aristotle.
To become a Force of Nature, you must abandon whatever doubt you have, whether or not we each deserve to have what we deeply want. What is proposed is that you should get what you want -- if you know in precise detail what you want, if you know in precise detail the steps to getting it, if you are absolutely willing to do each step, and if you are flexible enough to embrace and adapt to the friction of life.
About the Author:
JK Ellis is a writer and occasional public speaker. He writes on the topic of mind control and has published two book on the subject: "Perfected Mind Control - The Unauthorized Black Book of Hypnotic Mind Control" and "Mind Control 101 - How To Influence the Thoughts and Actions of Others Without Them Knowing or Caring." Because of the controversial nature of his work, he seeks to maintain his anonymity and make very rare public appearances.
STAY IN THE GAME IF YOU WANT TO WIN
The more you try, the greater your chance of succeeding. The law of averages is on your side.
Taking a risk is often your first necessary step toward success. If you don't take some risks, you won't get the chance to succeed. While you are trying, you are winning.
Never get discouraged.
Every wrong attempt is another step forward. People that make no mistakes usually don't make anything.
Make up your mind not merely to overcome a thousand obstacles, but to win in spite of a thousand defeats. Your mistakes are stepping stones to success and your installment payments to victory.
You can't be a winner and be afraid to lose.
Copyright 2008 yourdailymotivation.com
Taking a risk is often your first necessary step toward success. If you don't take some risks, you won't get the chance to succeed. While you are trying, you are winning.
Never get discouraged.
Every wrong attempt is another step forward. People that make no mistakes usually don't make anything.
Make up your mind not merely to overcome a thousand obstacles, but to win in spite of a thousand defeats. Your mistakes are stepping stones to success and your installment payments to victory.
You can't be a winner and be afraid to lose.
Copyright 2008 yourdailymotivation.com
Sunday, February 24, 2008
A Letter to God - by Eduardo Dancel
Dear God,
I know that you hear me because I talk to you often. I know that you speak to me in the form of inspiration. I have a lot that I desire- mostly to make a contribution in this life. I just want to serve the many for in doing so, I believe that I will get what I desire. I desire joy, peace, happiness, success and love. I desire to teach and inspire people. I desire to be able to attain and share your great wisdom to a large audience. I have been inspired. I now know and believe that I am not a human having a spiritual experience but the other way around. I am spirit having a human experience. Thank you God for giving me this divine insight. I will continue my education, I will have faith and with passion I will persue my dreams. Thank you again God. I am so grateful for all the wonderful experiences that you have given me in life. I am even grateful for the not so wonderful moments in my life for they have taught me how to be who I am today. Thank You. Thank You. Thank You God.
Eduardo Dancel
I know that you hear me because I talk to you often. I know that you speak to me in the form of inspiration. I have a lot that I desire- mostly to make a contribution in this life. I just want to serve the many for in doing so, I believe that I will get what I desire. I desire joy, peace, happiness, success and love. I desire to teach and inspire people. I desire to be able to attain and share your great wisdom to a large audience. I have been inspired. I now know and believe that I am not a human having a spiritual experience but the other way around. I am spirit having a human experience. Thank you God for giving me this divine insight. I will continue my education, I will have faith and with passion I will persue my dreams. Thank you again God. I am so grateful for all the wonderful experiences that you have given me in life. I am even grateful for the not so wonderful moments in my life for they have taught me how to be who I am today. Thank You. Thank You. Thank You God.
Eduardo Dancel
Let the Blame Game ... End - by Bruno Gideon
Perhaps a friend has betrayed you, an investment has gone sour, or a neighbor is driving you crazy. Perhaps your family is not giving you the support you think you deserve, or your children are not turning out as you had hoped. "Poor me," you sigh, and the blame game begins. Before long, disappointment and frustration turn into anger. You know of course that you can't change what has happened, yet you hold on for dear life and your resentment boils over, day and night. Wake up! The angrier you become, the more urgent it is for you to let go.
We must learn to let go to make room for the things
we have prayed for and desired.
- Charles Fillmore
There's an important difference between giving up and letting go.
- Jessica Hatchigan
Bruno's commentary
Letting go of our bad experiences, our frustration, our anger, and especially our lust for revenge is nothing other than an act of self-protection. If we don't let go, we hurt ourselves. But beware: letting go is not the same as forgetting. Forgetting is passive and often involves ignoring reality. Letting go is active and involves separating personal issues from factual ones, a process that protects us from the knee-jerk reaction of blaming others or even ourselves. Only when we let go can we grow and accept the lessons that we have learned. Only then can we move on to a new task, a new experience, and a new, positive way of living.
Want to get rid of the negativity in your life? Learn to let go, and remember: we are a work in progress; the future is still under construction!
http://www.brunogideon.com
We must learn to let go to make room for the things
we have prayed for and desired.
- Charles Fillmore
There's an important difference between giving up and letting go.
- Jessica Hatchigan
Bruno's commentary
Letting go of our bad experiences, our frustration, our anger, and especially our lust for revenge is nothing other than an act of self-protection. If we don't let go, we hurt ourselves. But beware: letting go is not the same as forgetting. Forgetting is passive and often involves ignoring reality. Letting go is active and involves separating personal issues from factual ones, a process that protects us from the knee-jerk reaction of blaming others or even ourselves. Only when we let go can we grow and accept the lessons that we have learned. Only then can we move on to a new task, a new experience, and a new, positive way of living.
Want to get rid of the negativity in your life? Learn to let go, and remember: we are a work in progress; the future is still under construction!
http://www.brunogideon.com
Success is Within You
How things look on the outside of you always depends on how things are on the inside of you.
Your thoughts have brought you to where you are today. Your actions always mirror your thoughts. Take a good look at where you are and what you're doing, and you can understand what you've been thinking. Your mind is your true essence.
Your behavior is the perpetual revealing of yourself. What you do, tells everyone who and what you are.
Change your thoughts and you can change your position in life. You can start this process at anytime. Why not start today!?
Copyright 2008 yourdailymotivation.com
Your thoughts have brought you to where you are today. Your actions always mirror your thoughts. Take a good look at where you are and what you're doing, and you can understand what you've been thinking. Your mind is your true essence.
Your behavior is the perpetual revealing of yourself. What you do, tells everyone who and what you are.
Change your thoughts and you can change your position in life. You can start this process at anytime. Why not start today!?
Copyright 2008 yourdailymotivation.com
Saturday, February 23, 2008
SUCCESS IS CLOSER THAN YOU THINK
Every situation, properly perceived, becomes an opportunity. But you have to act on them if you're going to be successful.
Distant pastures always look greener than those close at hand, but real opportunities are right where you are. You must simply take advantage of them when they appear. You can start where you are at any time.
Success is all around you. It's not in your environment, it's not in luck or chance, or in the help of others. Success is in yourself alone.
You don't need more strength or more ability or greater opportunity. What you need is to use what you have. Learn to seize good fortune, for it is always around you.
You must go to success, it doesn't come to you. Open your own doors to opportunity.
Copyright 2008 yourdailymotivation.com
Distant pastures always look greener than those close at hand, but real opportunities are right where you are. You must simply take advantage of them when they appear. You can start where you are at any time.
Success is all around you. It's not in your environment, it's not in luck or chance, or in the help of others. Success is in yourself alone.
You don't need more strength or more ability or greater opportunity. What you need is to use what you have. Learn to seize good fortune, for it is always around you.
You must go to success, it doesn't come to you. Open your own doors to opportunity.
Copyright 2008 yourdailymotivation.com
Friday, February 22, 2008
Trust Your Gut - by Brian Kim
Trust your gut. Trust your instincts. Trust your intuition. They’re all saying the same thing, namely “Trust your subconscious.”
We probably first experienced this in school. We would mark an answer that we somehow knew was the right one, only to change it, and then realize after we get our test back that our first answer was correct.
Interviewers have trusted their gut on hiring people, even though logic screamed otherwise. Detectives have relied on their gut feelings or “hunches” to break cases. Police officers were able to sense bad vibes from people they’ve pulled over on routine traffic stops, only to realize that they just caught a serial killer (like in the case of Ted Bundy). Firefighters have trusted their gut to know when to evacuate in the nick of time before the building collapsed.
But for some reason, many people seem to suppress this gut instinct simply because they don’t understand it, more specifically, don’t understand how it works.
Remember, your subconscious is storing vast amounts of information at lightning speeds and processing all that as well in the background. The information your conscious mind is taking in and analyzing pales in comparison with that of your subconscious. Your subconscious is picking up on body language, tone of voice, sounds, sights, smells, etc. that you don’t even register consciously half the time and it’s processing all that at enormous rates of speed and spitting back the finding that we like to label as the gut feeling.
Which conclusion would you likely trust? From a scientist with limited information and analysis or from another scientist who has access to mounds of information and the latest technology in computer analysis? Clearly, the winner is the latter, namely the subconscious.
So if the subconscious can do all that, then why is it our gut reaction is sometimes wrong?
This is where the amount of data comes into play. You’ll notice that people who utilize their subconscious (gut) coupled with vast amounts of relevant data have a greater winning percentage with it. By winning percentage, I simply mean the percentage of the time their gut was correct. As you gain more information and experience, your subconscious has more data to compare and contrast with in order to evaluate your future experiences.
For example, the more people you interact with, the more your subconscious mind can store data on human interaction, body language, conversational signs, etc. Add to that any data you read from books and articles and you get a nice big reservoir of information to analyze with. People who are people persons are people persons simply because they habitually interact with people. Their subconscious starts absorbing all the information from interactions and soon enough, that person seems to have a gut feeling signaling to them when to stop talking or when to leave a conversation, when to continue, what to say in a certain instance, what not to say, etc in order to have harmonious conversations with others. He/she instinctively knows what to say and how to say it.
You will discover in the beginning, that person finds themselves doing all the wrong things, but as they get more and more experience, the data they get from each successive interaction can be put against previous data and the results will be more accurate. More data sets to compare against leads to greater accuracy in the analysis.
So is it any wonder why veteran detectives are the ones who get the “hunches” and are able to break the cases? Is it any wonder why the firefighters who have been with the department for several years know the correct decision to make in a split second life or death situation?
Going along the lines of that, it would appear that trusting your gut on decisions where you have ample experience on the matter would be wise. For example, if you’ve been driving for quite some time (years) and you get a gut feeling that you should put some distance from the car in front of you, do it. Trust your subconscious. It would’ve probably saved you from a car accident, or more importantly, your life. I can’t tell you how many times this has helped avoid numerous accidents on the road. If you’re a programmer and you have a lot of experience in that area, and you’re torn between writing a program two different ways, trust the gut and write it the way it tells you too. If you’re a veteran salesman and you’re talking with a prospect, and you get that vibe he/she is going to buy, act on it.
So how can you tell if what you’re feeling is your gut feeling? I can’t articulate the feeling (probably because I’m trying to use my conscious mind to articulate the subconscious) but all I can say is you’ll know it when you feel it. Trust it and act on it. It’s one of the best analytical computers out there so you might as well use it. Chances are, if you have enough information and experience in the matter and you need to make a decision, your gut feeling is probably always the best one to go with.
We probably first experienced this in school. We would mark an answer that we somehow knew was the right one, only to change it, and then realize after we get our test back that our first answer was correct.
Interviewers have trusted their gut on hiring people, even though logic screamed otherwise. Detectives have relied on their gut feelings or “hunches” to break cases. Police officers were able to sense bad vibes from people they’ve pulled over on routine traffic stops, only to realize that they just caught a serial killer (like in the case of Ted Bundy). Firefighters have trusted their gut to know when to evacuate in the nick of time before the building collapsed.
But for some reason, many people seem to suppress this gut instinct simply because they don’t understand it, more specifically, don’t understand how it works.
Remember, your subconscious is storing vast amounts of information at lightning speeds and processing all that as well in the background. The information your conscious mind is taking in and analyzing pales in comparison with that of your subconscious. Your subconscious is picking up on body language, tone of voice, sounds, sights, smells, etc. that you don’t even register consciously half the time and it’s processing all that at enormous rates of speed and spitting back the finding that we like to label as the gut feeling.
Which conclusion would you likely trust? From a scientist with limited information and analysis or from another scientist who has access to mounds of information and the latest technology in computer analysis? Clearly, the winner is the latter, namely the subconscious.
So if the subconscious can do all that, then why is it our gut reaction is sometimes wrong?
This is where the amount of data comes into play. You’ll notice that people who utilize their subconscious (gut) coupled with vast amounts of relevant data have a greater winning percentage with it. By winning percentage, I simply mean the percentage of the time their gut was correct. As you gain more information and experience, your subconscious has more data to compare and contrast with in order to evaluate your future experiences.
For example, the more people you interact with, the more your subconscious mind can store data on human interaction, body language, conversational signs, etc. Add to that any data you read from books and articles and you get a nice big reservoir of information to analyze with. People who are people persons are people persons simply because they habitually interact with people. Their subconscious starts absorbing all the information from interactions and soon enough, that person seems to have a gut feeling signaling to them when to stop talking or when to leave a conversation, when to continue, what to say in a certain instance, what not to say, etc in order to have harmonious conversations with others. He/she instinctively knows what to say and how to say it.
You will discover in the beginning, that person finds themselves doing all the wrong things, but as they get more and more experience, the data they get from each successive interaction can be put against previous data and the results will be more accurate. More data sets to compare against leads to greater accuracy in the analysis.
So is it any wonder why veteran detectives are the ones who get the “hunches” and are able to break the cases? Is it any wonder why the firefighters who have been with the department for several years know the correct decision to make in a split second life or death situation?
Going along the lines of that, it would appear that trusting your gut on decisions where you have ample experience on the matter would be wise. For example, if you’ve been driving for quite some time (years) and you get a gut feeling that you should put some distance from the car in front of you, do it. Trust your subconscious. It would’ve probably saved you from a car accident, or more importantly, your life. I can’t tell you how many times this has helped avoid numerous accidents on the road. If you’re a programmer and you have a lot of experience in that area, and you’re torn between writing a program two different ways, trust the gut and write it the way it tells you too. If you’re a veteran salesman and you’re talking with a prospect, and you get that vibe he/she is going to buy, act on it.
So how can you tell if what you’re feeling is your gut feeling? I can’t articulate the feeling (probably because I’m trying to use my conscious mind to articulate the subconscious) but all I can say is you’ll know it when you feel it. Trust it and act on it. It’s one of the best analytical computers out there so you might as well use it. Chances are, if you have enough information and experience in the matter and you need to make a decision, your gut feeling is probably always the best one to go with.
The Seven Wonders of the World - by Author Unknown
Junior high school students in Chicago were studying the Seven Wonders of the World. At the end of the lesson, the students were asked to list what they considered to be the Seven Wonders of the World. Though there was some disagreement, the following received the most votes:
1. Egypt's Great Pyramids
2. The Taj Mahal in India
3. The Grand Canyon in Arizona
4. The Panama Canal
5. The Empire State Building
6. St. Peter's Basilica
7. China's Great Wall
While gathering the votes, the teacher noted that one student, a quiet girl, hadn't turned in her paper yet. So she asked the girl if she was having trouble with her list. The quiet girl replied, "Yes, a little. I couldn't quite make up my mind because there were so many." The teacher said, "Well, tell us what you have, and maybe we can help."
The girl hesitated, then read, "I think the Seven Wonders of the World are:
1. to touch...
2. to taste...
3. to see...
4. to hear... (She hesitated a little, and then added...)
5. to feel...
6. to laugh...
7. and to love.
The room was so quiet; you could have heard a pin drop.
May this story serve as a gentle reminder to all of us that the things we overlook as simple and ordinary are often the most wonderful - and we don't have to travel anywhere special to experience them.
Enjoy your gifts!
1. Egypt's Great Pyramids
2. The Taj Mahal in India
3. The Grand Canyon in Arizona
4. The Panama Canal
5. The Empire State Building
6. St. Peter's Basilica
7. China's Great Wall
While gathering the votes, the teacher noted that one student, a quiet girl, hadn't turned in her paper yet. So she asked the girl if she was having trouble with her list. The quiet girl replied, "Yes, a little. I couldn't quite make up my mind because there were so many." The teacher said, "Well, tell us what you have, and maybe we can help."
The girl hesitated, then read, "I think the Seven Wonders of the World are:
1. to touch...
2. to taste...
3. to see...
4. to hear... (She hesitated a little, and then added...)
5. to feel...
6. to laugh...
7. and to love.
The room was so quiet; you could have heard a pin drop.
May this story serve as a gentle reminder to all of us that the things we overlook as simple and ordinary are often the most wonderful - and we don't have to travel anywhere special to experience them.
Enjoy your gifts!
Thursday, February 21, 2008
Why Getting Dumped Could Be The Best Thing That’s Ever Happened To You
- By Brian Kim
For some odd reason, the 2nd most popular request for articles to write that I get come from 20 something males regarding the subject of dating and getting over breakups. On that note, I wanted to write an article that will hopefully put a stop to these flow of requests – and it’s not that I don’t like getting those emails, it’s just that I find myself saying the same thing over and over again so I hope this article will put an end to those types of questions.
I’m going to describe a typical scenario that I’m sure most guys can relate to. If you find that you don’t, you may know somebody who will.
Boy meets girl.
Boy falls head over heels in love with girl.
Boy spends every waking minute with girl.
Boy forsakes his friends, family, dreams for girl.
Girl dumps boy.
Boy’s heart is broken in half.
Probably one of the most vulnerable points in any man’s life (or woman’s for that matter), is when they are dumped. And nobody likes to get dumped. Nobody. It hurts. And it hurts pretty bad. Everybody takes it personally as a sign of rejection of who they are as a person and what they’re all about.
Then comes the playing of sad love songs, reminiscing about the girl, thinking about her all the time, wanting to get back together, depression, no appetite - the whole works. Everybody deals with rejection in their own way but whatever the recovery process is for that person, it’s very painful to see it from the outside.
What will most likely happen next is that he will get over it, but will repeat the same process again with another woman, and another, and another until this realization finally hits him.
That the problem does not lie with the women; it lies with him.
And it’s a bitter pill to swallow. Specifically, he is placing his happiness and self worth, in effect his world so to speak, onto the girl and the relationship. He is not happy unless he has the girl and the relationship. He is hoping the girl and the relationship will solve his problems. You take that away and he becomes a mess.
But you can’t blame guys for thinking like that because a relationship does bring happiness and good times. It’s a good thing and I’m certainly not advocating one to become a monk and abstain from women.
What I am advocating here is to become happy, to create your own world independent of the woman and of the relationship, in short to not need it as much.
Why? Because women can smell needy guys and desperation a mile away and more often than not, guys will cling to a woman like a life preserver reeking of neediness and desperation, as she has become their entire life, leaving behind anything else and it’s because of this neediness and desperation that women dump men like a sack of potatoes.
What the great thing about getting dumped is that it’s probably one of the few ways that will bring about this crucial realization upon a man. That women and relationships will not solve his life. That he must solve his own life first. That he must solve his own problems, to get his own act together, and that no woman or relationship can do it for him.
And once he realizes this, it will cause him to strive to become more than he ever was.
He will solve his problems, pursue his dreams, become the best man he can possibly be, strengthen the bonds between his friends and himself and his family, in short, he will get his life in order FIRST. He will have effectively created his own world, one that he is happy living in, independent of women.
And the catalyst for this change in his life usually comes from the “I’ll show her what she’s missing out on” anger caused by the dumping, and while that’s great fuel to start with, it won’t last. What will happen next is that all that anger will morph into gratitude. As they see the life they envision in their mind becoming a reality before them, they become grateful for the breakup, grateful that she had broken his heart because if it were not for her, he would not have been so motivated to initiate such great change in his life.
When he does all this, women and relationships will take care of themselves. He will find women that will fit into the world he has created and they will flock toward him.
I’ve seen this happen so many times. A guy who thinks he has found the love of his life gets dumped and he gets super depressed but afterwards, realizes the problem was with him the entire time, that he was relying on the woman and the relationship to create a world of happiness, so instead, he works on himself and he gets his life in order and when he does, the ex always comes back, realizing what she has missed out on, not to mention a flock of other women.
So the focus should be not on the woman and the relationship so much as on yourself, to be the best person you can be, to invest in yourself and to not place your happiness and your world onto the woman and the relationship. To become more than you were before and to begin focusing on creating your own world, on improving your own life because when you do that, you start to naturally exhibit all the qualities that women desire – confidence, purpose, drive, ambition, etc.
Other guys will create their world based on the women and the relationship, and when the woman is gone, so is their world and they will have nothing to hold onto.
It’s important to focus on becoming the best person you can be and creating the life you want to live because by doing so, you will find a woman that will fit into your world naturally.
So let’s say for example, your passion lies in building houses for homeless people. You volunteer to work on projects not because you hope you will meet women there, but because that’s what you love to do. And as you start volunteering at these places, you will find someone who shares the same values as yourself, someone who can easily fit into your world and can easily share it with. It will all come about naturally as a result of you creating your ideal world and living in it.
What you’ll find is that most people will feel as if they’ve dodged a bullet after they got dumped because had they continued on with that relationship, they would never be at where they are today.
A man is usually at rock bottom from getting dumped, but the greatest thing about that is it gives him an opportunity to change his life.
It’s a great wake up call – to become more than you were before, to follow your dreams, and to create the world that you wish to live in, and to share it with the woman of your dreams.
For some odd reason, the 2nd most popular request for articles to write that I get come from 20 something males regarding the subject of dating and getting over breakups. On that note, I wanted to write an article that will hopefully put a stop to these flow of requests – and it’s not that I don’t like getting those emails, it’s just that I find myself saying the same thing over and over again so I hope this article will put an end to those types of questions.
I’m going to describe a typical scenario that I’m sure most guys can relate to. If you find that you don’t, you may know somebody who will.
Boy meets girl.
Boy falls head over heels in love with girl.
Boy spends every waking minute with girl.
Boy forsakes his friends, family, dreams for girl.
Girl dumps boy.
Boy’s heart is broken in half.
Probably one of the most vulnerable points in any man’s life (or woman’s for that matter), is when they are dumped. And nobody likes to get dumped. Nobody. It hurts. And it hurts pretty bad. Everybody takes it personally as a sign of rejection of who they are as a person and what they’re all about.
Then comes the playing of sad love songs, reminiscing about the girl, thinking about her all the time, wanting to get back together, depression, no appetite - the whole works. Everybody deals with rejection in their own way but whatever the recovery process is for that person, it’s very painful to see it from the outside.
What will most likely happen next is that he will get over it, but will repeat the same process again with another woman, and another, and another until this realization finally hits him.
That the problem does not lie with the women; it lies with him.
And it’s a bitter pill to swallow. Specifically, he is placing his happiness and self worth, in effect his world so to speak, onto the girl and the relationship. He is not happy unless he has the girl and the relationship. He is hoping the girl and the relationship will solve his problems. You take that away and he becomes a mess.
But you can’t blame guys for thinking like that because a relationship does bring happiness and good times. It’s a good thing and I’m certainly not advocating one to become a monk and abstain from women.
What I am advocating here is to become happy, to create your own world independent of the woman and of the relationship, in short to not need it as much.
Why? Because women can smell needy guys and desperation a mile away and more often than not, guys will cling to a woman like a life preserver reeking of neediness and desperation, as she has become their entire life, leaving behind anything else and it’s because of this neediness and desperation that women dump men like a sack of potatoes.
What the great thing about getting dumped is that it’s probably one of the few ways that will bring about this crucial realization upon a man. That women and relationships will not solve his life. That he must solve his own life first. That he must solve his own problems, to get his own act together, and that no woman or relationship can do it for him.
And once he realizes this, it will cause him to strive to become more than he ever was.
He will solve his problems, pursue his dreams, become the best man he can possibly be, strengthen the bonds between his friends and himself and his family, in short, he will get his life in order FIRST. He will have effectively created his own world, one that he is happy living in, independent of women.
And the catalyst for this change in his life usually comes from the “I’ll show her what she’s missing out on” anger caused by the dumping, and while that’s great fuel to start with, it won’t last. What will happen next is that all that anger will morph into gratitude. As they see the life they envision in their mind becoming a reality before them, they become grateful for the breakup, grateful that she had broken his heart because if it were not for her, he would not have been so motivated to initiate such great change in his life.
When he does all this, women and relationships will take care of themselves. He will find women that will fit into the world he has created and they will flock toward him.
I’ve seen this happen so many times. A guy who thinks he has found the love of his life gets dumped and he gets super depressed but afterwards, realizes the problem was with him the entire time, that he was relying on the woman and the relationship to create a world of happiness, so instead, he works on himself and he gets his life in order and when he does, the ex always comes back, realizing what she has missed out on, not to mention a flock of other women.
So the focus should be not on the woman and the relationship so much as on yourself, to be the best person you can be, to invest in yourself and to not place your happiness and your world onto the woman and the relationship. To become more than you were before and to begin focusing on creating your own world, on improving your own life because when you do that, you start to naturally exhibit all the qualities that women desire – confidence, purpose, drive, ambition, etc.
Other guys will create their world based on the women and the relationship, and when the woman is gone, so is their world and they will have nothing to hold onto.
It’s important to focus on becoming the best person you can be and creating the life you want to live because by doing so, you will find a woman that will fit into your world naturally.
So let’s say for example, your passion lies in building houses for homeless people. You volunteer to work on projects not because you hope you will meet women there, but because that’s what you love to do. And as you start volunteering at these places, you will find someone who shares the same values as yourself, someone who can easily fit into your world and can easily share it with. It will all come about naturally as a result of you creating your ideal world and living in it.
What you’ll find is that most people will feel as if they’ve dodged a bullet after they got dumped because had they continued on with that relationship, they would never be at where they are today.
A man is usually at rock bottom from getting dumped, but the greatest thing about that is it gives him an opportunity to change his life.
It’s a great wake up call – to become more than you were before, to follow your dreams, and to create the world that you wish to live in, and to share it with the woman of your dreams.
Wednesday, February 20, 2008
How to Stop Worrying All the Time - By Brian Kim
Worry seems to be one of those human emotions that people feel trapped and frustrated by. When people worry too much, they become afraid that their very act of worrying can lead to the exact realization of their worries. In other words, they fear that worry can help lead to a self fulfilling prophecy which just causes more worry which makes them worry that much more which just puts them into a viscous worry cycle.
It seems like once worry sets in, it begins to snowball automatically by the very act of constantly thinking about what you’re worrying, which just gives it that much more power which then begins to influence how you perceive your reality of the environment in order to seek confirmation of what you’re worrying about which you will begin to find, which then feeds the worry that much more, which then continues the cycle.
The mind is a very powerful thing as it can influence your perception of reality which can then influence any future decisions and actions you choose to make which can help bring about your worries to reality as a result, so it’s no wonder why people get so stressed out about worrying in the first place.
So what to do? How to break yourself free from this cycle?
First off, it’s just to distract yourself from the situation when you start to worry. Obviously this is not a long term solution. It’s just meant to cut you off from the worry flow you’re currently engaging in - to stop the worry “snowball” if you will.
Exercise, pick up a book, play a sport. Do something constructive and positive with your time. Whenever worry comes up, distract yourself from it.
Once you stop the flow, realize that there’s only today left. The past and all its mistakes are finished. The future is yet to come. You only have today to work with and the future is not written in stone.
Realize that worry tends to embellish the very worst case scenarios of the future and this is where our active imagination can sometimes work against us. We tend to project the worst case scenarios of the future when we don’t even know what the future will hold. What you worry that might happen in the future may not (and probably will not) even happen because you don’t even know what the next day holds in store for you, let alone the next month or year.
It makes absolutely no sense to assume that what you worry about will come true when you don’t even know what’s going to happen for sure in the time between now and that future time period.
Realize that you have only today to work with and then make the most of it to alleviate your worry. Take in as much information as you need regarding the issue you’re worrying about. People tend to fear the unknown so the more you learn about what’s worrying you, the more light you can shed on the matter. The more information you have on what you’re worrying about, the more capable you become in terms of taking the necessary actions to alleviate it and the more action you take, the less of a foundation of whatever you’re worrying about has and the more “holes” you punch in it.
Seek out others who were once in your current situation. Ask for their help. It helps to have somebody to talk to who faced a similar situation as they can give you advice on what to do and it’s also a huge helping factor in the sense that you realize you were not alone and more often than not, that you were never alone in the first place.
When you begin to see progress after doing all this, you get reassured because you see things aren’t totally out of your control and that you can do something about it.
But some people may find themselves constantly worrying about the things they cannot change in their lives and there ARE things in life we can’t change. But worrying about the things we can’t change serves no purpose. It’s wasted energy. Better to accept the things you can’t change as that will free you to focus your energy on the things you can.
Another great way to combat worry is faith. Everybody has their own faith and whatever faith that may be, it all involves some sort of reassurance, that everything will turn out ok due to whatever the faith is based upon. That kind of faith starts to “open” your eyes to the environment, and influences your perception to find the opportunities that can help alleviate your worries. And let’s not forget about having faith in yourself as well. It can instill in you the confidence to handle anything thrown at you.
It’s easy to worry all the time with all the pressures and events that life tends to throw at us but it’s better to realize that we have the power to stop the worry flow. The power to seize the day. The power to take back control. The power to learn. The power to ask. The power to act. And to stop worrying about the things we can’t change in our lives. And to start working on the things we can.
It seems like once worry sets in, it begins to snowball automatically by the very act of constantly thinking about what you’re worrying, which just gives it that much more power which then begins to influence how you perceive your reality of the environment in order to seek confirmation of what you’re worrying about which you will begin to find, which then feeds the worry that much more, which then continues the cycle.
The mind is a very powerful thing as it can influence your perception of reality which can then influence any future decisions and actions you choose to make which can help bring about your worries to reality as a result, so it’s no wonder why people get so stressed out about worrying in the first place.
So what to do? How to break yourself free from this cycle?
First off, it’s just to distract yourself from the situation when you start to worry. Obviously this is not a long term solution. It’s just meant to cut you off from the worry flow you’re currently engaging in - to stop the worry “snowball” if you will.
Exercise, pick up a book, play a sport. Do something constructive and positive with your time. Whenever worry comes up, distract yourself from it.
Once you stop the flow, realize that there’s only today left. The past and all its mistakes are finished. The future is yet to come. You only have today to work with and the future is not written in stone.
Realize that worry tends to embellish the very worst case scenarios of the future and this is where our active imagination can sometimes work against us. We tend to project the worst case scenarios of the future when we don’t even know what the future will hold. What you worry that might happen in the future may not (and probably will not) even happen because you don’t even know what the next day holds in store for you, let alone the next month or year.
It makes absolutely no sense to assume that what you worry about will come true when you don’t even know what’s going to happen for sure in the time between now and that future time period.
Realize that you have only today to work with and then make the most of it to alleviate your worry. Take in as much information as you need regarding the issue you’re worrying about. People tend to fear the unknown so the more you learn about what’s worrying you, the more light you can shed on the matter. The more information you have on what you’re worrying about, the more capable you become in terms of taking the necessary actions to alleviate it and the more action you take, the less of a foundation of whatever you’re worrying about has and the more “holes” you punch in it.
Seek out others who were once in your current situation. Ask for their help. It helps to have somebody to talk to who faced a similar situation as they can give you advice on what to do and it’s also a huge helping factor in the sense that you realize you were not alone and more often than not, that you were never alone in the first place.
When you begin to see progress after doing all this, you get reassured because you see things aren’t totally out of your control and that you can do something about it.
But some people may find themselves constantly worrying about the things they cannot change in their lives and there ARE things in life we can’t change. But worrying about the things we can’t change serves no purpose. It’s wasted energy. Better to accept the things you can’t change as that will free you to focus your energy on the things you can.
Another great way to combat worry is faith. Everybody has their own faith and whatever faith that may be, it all involves some sort of reassurance, that everything will turn out ok due to whatever the faith is based upon. That kind of faith starts to “open” your eyes to the environment, and influences your perception to find the opportunities that can help alleviate your worries. And let’s not forget about having faith in yourself as well. It can instill in you the confidence to handle anything thrown at you.
It’s easy to worry all the time with all the pressures and events that life tends to throw at us but it’s better to realize that we have the power to stop the worry flow. The power to seize the day. The power to take back control. The power to learn. The power to ask. The power to act. And to stop worrying about the things we can’t change in our lives. And to start working on the things we can.
IF AT FIRST YOU DON'T SUCEED, TRY, TRY AGAIN
You're not finished when you're defeated, you're only finished when you quit. The most important quality essential to success is perseverance. It overcomes almost everything, even nature.
Winning isn't everything, but wanting to is. Success is connected with continuous action. It's largely a matter of hanging on after others have let go.
You can have a fresh start any time you choose, for your "failure" is not in the falling down, but in the staying down. It's not over until it's over.
If you've got the courage to stick it out, you can win.
Copyright 2008 yourdailymotivation.com
Winning isn't everything, but wanting to is. Success is connected with continuous action. It's largely a matter of hanging on after others have let go.
You can have a fresh start any time you choose, for your "failure" is not in the falling down, but in the staying down. It's not over until it's over.
If you've got the courage to stick it out, you can win.
Copyright 2008 yourdailymotivation.com
Tuesday, February 19, 2008
The Self-Hypnosis Diet
Use the Power of Your Mind to Reach Your Perfect Weight
– By Steven Gurgevich, Ph.D. & Joy Gurgevich
The Self-Hypnosis Diet: The Essential Ingredients
You control the essential ingredients that make self-hypnosis work for you. Actually, these are the same ingredients that create your experience of success in any goal you choose. Let us look at each element and how you may use them to perform for you.
Motivation is the energy of your desire, of what you want. Wanting is a feeling that you can control. For most of your life you have mainly controlled your desire or wanting by limiting it or denying it. You may be very good at controlling your desires and wanting in some areas and weak or unpracticed in others. Since this is a "diet" book, you may have already prepared yourself to hear that this "diet" will be like the others that have told you what you must deny or limit. That is, the other diets have told you what not to want, and the emphasis may have been about "not wanting" some foods that you have grown to love. Welcome to a new way of treating yourself; we will encourage you to get even better at "wanting." Denial is not included in "The Self-Hypnosis Diet." Your motivation is a key factor, one of the basic and essential ingredients. We want you to focus your energy of WANTING, not toward food but toward the motivation that clearly tells your mind-body what you want it to create: perfect weight. We encourage you to get really good at wanting your perfect weight. Here is an example. Let us say that you are in a swimming pool and suddenly you breathe in a mouthful of water. In that moment you only want one thing, a breath of air. It feels like life or death, and a breath is the only thing in your mind at this time. The wanting is so intense and powerful that it overshadows all other thoughts and propels you to do whatever it takes to get that breath of air. That is how much we want you to want the weight and body image that you desire.
Beliefs are those thoughts and ideas that are true for you. They do not have to be scientifically proven for you to know them to be true for you. Whether you are aware of it or not, your actions, both consciously and subconsciously, are based on your beliefs. Even though your beliefs are in the form of thoughts and ideas, they shape your experience by affecting your actions in life. If you believe that animals make good companions, you probably have a cat, or dog, or parrot, or ferret or two. If you believe that coffee keeps you awake at night, you probably do not drink coffee before bed.
The power of believing lets you influence your body in ways that might seem astounding. Placebo responses, where individuals respond to an inert substance as if it were the real medication, are common examples of how beliefs are experienced in the body. If a person really believes that they will get well when they take a certain medication, it will happen whether the tablet contains medication or is simply inert. In the same way, if a person really believes that they can achieve high grades in college, they will.
If a person really believes that they can have their perfect weight, they will. As we asked you in the introduction, remember your make-believe games as a child. Your ability to pretend is just as good now as when you were very young. It may be a little rusty and you may need a bit of practice, but when you allow yourself to pretend and let yourself believe in what you are pretending, you will discover a very powerful tool. You will discover that this is a wonderfully effective way to deliver your intentions, those messages of what you want, to all of the cells and tissues and organs of your body, which respond to bring that intention about for you. We can't say this enough -- thoughts are things. The thoughts, the pictures, the ideas you put in your mind, become the messages your self-hypnosis conveys to your mind-body, ultimately turning your perfect body into a reality. Pretending is choosing what to believe and becoming absorbed in those ideas. Just as a magnifying glass can focus the rays of sunlight, you can focus your mental energy to make your thoughts, ideas, and beliefs real for your body.
You may not always get what you want, but you do get what you expect. Expectations contain the energy of beliefs and become the results of what is believed. Here is an example of how to "expect." When you sat down to read this book, you did not examine the chair or sofa to test its ability to hold your weight. You just sat down without thinking about it. You did not have to think about it, because a part of you is confident, and has so much faith in the chair that you just "expected" it to hold you. That is how to expect the perfect body weight you desire. Be mindful of what you say to yourself and others regarding your body weight expectations. "I always gain weight over the holidays." "Last night I ate two pieces of cake, and this morning I was two pounds heavier."
Each of these essential ingredients can produce powerful results when focused within the mind-body. However, when these ingredients are aligned properly within the process of self-hypnosis, their effectiveness is magnified a hundredfold. It is a process for creating your reality. You might think this sounds magical or too good to be true, but that is relative to what you have experienced up to this point in your life. These ideas may be very new to you. Here is an example of the "relative" nature of new ideas. Imagine that you are given a private jet airplane which is beautifully outfitted with luxurious appointments and a well-trained crew. It is a wonderful gift, and you get to show this engineering marvel to some individuals that have never seen anything like this. Let us say that your pilot flies you back in time just before December 13, 1903 to the time before the Wright brothers announced their first flight with the "Kitty Hawk." You are eager to show this wonder of engineering to the Wright brothers that greet you. What might happen? Perhaps they would be scared and not believe that it is possible to fly in a metal bird. You could offer them a ride, and they might choose to run from you. People can resist or
reject new ideas, even when they are wonderful. The philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer said, "Every man takes the limits of his own field of vision for the limits of the world." Stretch your view and allow yourself the opportunity to become familiar with the ideas of self-hypnosis.
In "The Self-Hypnosis Diet," we are offering you ideas that may stretch your imagination and shrink your clothing size. To say that self-hypnosis is a process by which you create your reality. This may seem too good to be true or even unbelievable right now, maybe as fantastic as a time machine for some. That is fine, for right now, but open your mind and imagination to the possibilities that this gives you to have your perfect body weight. Let yourself believe that this process is real and true, because it is and it relies upon your belief to become true. Your subconscious (mind-body) uses the combination of what you want (motivation), what you believe, and what you expect as a blueprint for action. The results are achieved by your mind-body (subconscious), and not by "thinking" or analyzing. If a person touches a cold surface which they believe is very hot, they can produce a blister or burn response. Conversely, a person touching a very hot surface thinking that it is cool may not produce a burn response. Much like individuals who walk over hot coals while believing in imagination that they are cool, they may have a thermal injury (some minor scorching on their soles), but their immune system does not respond with a burn (blistering, pain, etc) because their mind is telling their body how to react. Again, it is the alignment of all three of these essential ingredients that make this possible:
* wanting to do it
* believing it possible
* expecting to be successful
This is the key to success. Your body carries out your beliefs -- your beliefs direct your actions -- which, in turn, shape your experience. Some describe this process as creating your success or creating your experience in life. In our culture we see this described within the motivational and positive mental attitude literature. It can be seen in many areas of metaphysics. You can also look back to the ancients and see it described in terms of the respective historical period. A person much wiser than us said, "It will be done unto you according to your belief." In the present age of integrative medicine and psychology we call it self-hypnosis or mind-body medicine. There are now numerous scientific studies that demonstrate amazing results for pain control, wound healing, physical alteration, and much more that we previously thought were impossible.
About the Author:
Steven Gurgevich, Ph.D. is a health psychologist specializing in mind-body medicine. He is a faculty member at the University of Arizona's College of Medicine, where he teaches mind-body medicine to physicians at Dr. Andrew Weil's Program in Integrative Medicine, and he is a Fellow and Approved Consultant of the American Society of Clinical Hypnosis. Joy Gurgevich is a behavorial nutritionist, specializing in helping people make wholesome food choices for a healthy lifestyle. She is a preceptor at Dr. Andrew Weil's Program in Integrative Medicine and the Behavioral Nutrition Expert at both of Dr. Weil's websites.
– By Steven Gurgevich, Ph.D. & Joy Gurgevich
The Self-Hypnosis Diet: The Essential Ingredients
You control the essential ingredients that make self-hypnosis work for you. Actually, these are the same ingredients that create your experience of success in any goal you choose. Let us look at each element and how you may use them to perform for you.
Motivation is the energy of your desire, of what you want. Wanting is a feeling that you can control. For most of your life you have mainly controlled your desire or wanting by limiting it or denying it. You may be very good at controlling your desires and wanting in some areas and weak or unpracticed in others. Since this is a "diet" book, you may have already prepared yourself to hear that this "diet" will be like the others that have told you what you must deny or limit. That is, the other diets have told you what not to want, and the emphasis may have been about "not wanting" some foods that you have grown to love. Welcome to a new way of treating yourself; we will encourage you to get even better at "wanting." Denial is not included in "The Self-Hypnosis Diet." Your motivation is a key factor, one of the basic and essential ingredients. We want you to focus your energy of WANTING, not toward food but toward the motivation that clearly tells your mind-body what you want it to create: perfect weight. We encourage you to get really good at wanting your perfect weight. Here is an example. Let us say that you are in a swimming pool and suddenly you breathe in a mouthful of water. In that moment you only want one thing, a breath of air. It feels like life or death, and a breath is the only thing in your mind at this time. The wanting is so intense and powerful that it overshadows all other thoughts and propels you to do whatever it takes to get that breath of air. That is how much we want you to want the weight and body image that you desire.
Beliefs are those thoughts and ideas that are true for you. They do not have to be scientifically proven for you to know them to be true for you. Whether you are aware of it or not, your actions, both consciously and subconsciously, are based on your beliefs. Even though your beliefs are in the form of thoughts and ideas, they shape your experience by affecting your actions in life. If you believe that animals make good companions, you probably have a cat, or dog, or parrot, or ferret or two. If you believe that coffee keeps you awake at night, you probably do not drink coffee before bed.
The power of believing lets you influence your body in ways that might seem astounding. Placebo responses, where individuals respond to an inert substance as if it were the real medication, are common examples of how beliefs are experienced in the body. If a person really believes that they will get well when they take a certain medication, it will happen whether the tablet contains medication or is simply inert. In the same way, if a person really believes that they can achieve high grades in college, they will.
If a person really believes that they can have their perfect weight, they will. As we asked you in the introduction, remember your make-believe games as a child. Your ability to pretend is just as good now as when you were very young. It may be a little rusty and you may need a bit of practice, but when you allow yourself to pretend and let yourself believe in what you are pretending, you will discover a very powerful tool. You will discover that this is a wonderfully effective way to deliver your intentions, those messages of what you want, to all of the cells and tissues and organs of your body, which respond to bring that intention about for you. We can't say this enough -- thoughts are things. The thoughts, the pictures, the ideas you put in your mind, become the messages your self-hypnosis conveys to your mind-body, ultimately turning your perfect body into a reality. Pretending is choosing what to believe and becoming absorbed in those ideas. Just as a magnifying glass can focus the rays of sunlight, you can focus your mental energy to make your thoughts, ideas, and beliefs real for your body.
You may not always get what you want, but you do get what you expect. Expectations contain the energy of beliefs and become the results of what is believed. Here is an example of how to "expect." When you sat down to read this book, you did not examine the chair or sofa to test its ability to hold your weight. You just sat down without thinking about it. You did not have to think about it, because a part of you is confident, and has so much faith in the chair that you just "expected" it to hold you. That is how to expect the perfect body weight you desire. Be mindful of what you say to yourself and others regarding your body weight expectations. "I always gain weight over the holidays." "Last night I ate two pieces of cake, and this morning I was two pounds heavier."
Each of these essential ingredients can produce powerful results when focused within the mind-body. However, when these ingredients are aligned properly within the process of self-hypnosis, their effectiveness is magnified a hundredfold. It is a process for creating your reality. You might think this sounds magical or too good to be true, but that is relative to what you have experienced up to this point in your life. These ideas may be very new to you. Here is an example of the "relative" nature of new ideas. Imagine that you are given a private jet airplane which is beautifully outfitted with luxurious appointments and a well-trained crew. It is a wonderful gift, and you get to show this engineering marvel to some individuals that have never seen anything like this. Let us say that your pilot flies you back in time just before December 13, 1903 to the time before the Wright brothers announced their first flight with the "Kitty Hawk." You are eager to show this wonder of engineering to the Wright brothers that greet you. What might happen? Perhaps they would be scared and not believe that it is possible to fly in a metal bird. You could offer them a ride, and they might choose to run from you. People can resist or
reject new ideas, even when they are wonderful. The philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer said, "Every man takes the limits of his own field of vision for the limits of the world." Stretch your view and allow yourself the opportunity to become familiar with the ideas of self-hypnosis.
In "The Self-Hypnosis Diet," we are offering you ideas that may stretch your imagination and shrink your clothing size. To say that self-hypnosis is a process by which you create your reality. This may seem too good to be true or even unbelievable right now, maybe as fantastic as a time machine for some. That is fine, for right now, but open your mind and imagination to the possibilities that this gives you to have your perfect body weight. Let yourself believe that this process is real and true, because it is and it relies upon your belief to become true. Your subconscious (mind-body) uses the combination of what you want (motivation), what you believe, and what you expect as a blueprint for action. The results are achieved by your mind-body (subconscious), and not by "thinking" or analyzing. If a person touches a cold surface which they believe is very hot, they can produce a blister or burn response. Conversely, a person touching a very hot surface thinking that it is cool may not produce a burn response. Much like individuals who walk over hot coals while believing in imagination that they are cool, they may have a thermal injury (some minor scorching on their soles), but their immune system does not respond with a burn (blistering, pain, etc) because their mind is telling their body how to react. Again, it is the alignment of all three of these essential ingredients that make this possible:
* wanting to do it
* believing it possible
* expecting to be successful
This is the key to success. Your body carries out your beliefs -- your beliefs direct your actions -- which, in turn, shape your experience. Some describe this process as creating your success or creating your experience in life. In our culture we see this described within the motivational and positive mental attitude literature. It can be seen in many areas of metaphysics. You can also look back to the ancients and see it described in terms of the respective historical period. A person much wiser than us said, "It will be done unto you according to your belief." In the present age of integrative medicine and psychology we call it self-hypnosis or mind-body medicine. There are now numerous scientific studies that demonstrate amazing results for pain control, wound healing, physical alteration, and much more that we previously thought were impossible.
About the Author:
Steven Gurgevich, Ph.D. is a health psychologist specializing in mind-body medicine. He is a faculty member at the University of Arizona's College of Medicine, where he teaches mind-body medicine to physicians at Dr. Andrew Weil's Program in Integrative Medicine, and he is a Fellow and Approved Consultant of the American Society of Clinical Hypnosis. Joy Gurgevich is a behavorial nutritionist, specializing in helping people make wholesome food choices for a healthy lifestyle. She is a preceptor at Dr. Andrew Weil's Program in Integrative Medicine and the Behavioral Nutrition Expert at both of Dr. Weil's websites.
Monday, February 18, 2008
Being Happy is a Decision
11 Ways to Change Your Life NOW! - By Larry Crane
Almost everyone has heard the hit single "Don't Worry, Be Happy" by Bobby McFerrin. The song has a very catchy way of conveying its message of being happy to everyone. Bobby Mcferrin's simple message surely made a lot of people focus on happiness by simply telling them not to worry or fear, and just BE happy.
Living a happy, resilient, and optimistic life is wonderful, and is also good for your health. Being happy actually protects you from the stresses of life. Stress (anxiety and fear) is linked to top causes of death such as heart disease, cancer, and stroke. It is also what is keeping you from having total abundance on every level.
One of the better things ever said is "The only thing in life that doesn't change is change," and in our life we have the power to make the necessary changes if we want to. Even if we find ourselves in an unbearable situation, we can always find solace in the knowledge that it too invariably must and will change.
Social networks or relationships are essential to happiness. People are different. The key is accepting people for who or what they are, avoiding clashes and constant arguments, and LETTING GO of all of your resentments, fears, and negative habits that are holding you back.
To be happy is relatively easy; it begins with a decision. Simply decide to be a happy person.
Abraham Lincoln observed that most people for most of the time can choose how happy or stressed, how relaxed or troubled, how bright or dull their outlook to be. The choice is simple really; choose to be happy.
There are several ways by which you can do this:
11. Being grateful is a great attitude. We have so much to be thankful for. Thank the taxi driver for bringing you home safely, thank the cook for a wonderful dinner, and thank the guy who cleans your windows. Also thank the mailman for bringing you your mail, thank the police officer for making your place safe, and thank God for being alive. Whatever you can find to be grateful for, find it.
10. News is stressful. Get less of it. Some people just can't start their day without their daily dose of news. Try and think about it -- 99% of the news we hear or read is bad news. Starting the day with bad, fearful news does not seem to be a sensible thing to do, does it?
9. A religious or spiritual connection is also recommended. Being part of a spiritual or religious group with its singing, sacraments, chanting, prayers, and meditations foster inner peace.
8. Manage your time. Time is invaluable and too important to waste. Time management can be viewed as a list of rules that involves scheduling, setting goals, planning, creating lists of things to do, and prioritizing. These are the core basics of time management that should be understood to develop an efficient personal time management skill. These basic skills can be fine-tuned further to include the finer points of each skill that can give you that extra reserve to make the results you desire.
7. Laugh and laugh heartily every day. Heard a good joke? Tell your friends or family about it. As they also say, "Laughter is the best medicine."
6. Express your feelings, affections, friendship, and passion in healthy ways to people around you. They will most likely reciprocate your actions. Let go of pent-up anger and frustrations, as this is bad for your health. Instead find ways of expressing them in a way that will not cause more injury or hurt to anyone.
5. Working smart instead of hard brings tremendous personal satisfaction. It gives us a feeling of being competent in finishing our tasks. Accomplishments are necessary for all of us; they give us a sense of value. Work on things that you feel are worthy of your time. And don't forget to celebrate them once they are completed!
4. Learning is a joyful experience. Try and learn something new every day. Learning also makes us expand and broaden our horizons...and could also give us more opportunities in the future.
3. Physical exercise. Run, jog, walk, and do other things that your body was made for. Feel alive.
2. Positive attracts positive. Avoid exposure to negative elements like loud noises, toxins, and hazardous places.
And the Number One Way to be Happy:
1. LET GO, LET GO, LET GO! Letting go of the layers and layers of negative emotions, feelings, and habits is the number one critical key to being happy all the time. There is no way around this. Fortunately, there is a simple, all-natural way to do just that, quicker than you ever dreamed. It's called the Abundance Course, and you can find out more at the link below.
These are the few simple things you can do every day to be happy.
And always remember Abraham Lincoln's wise words: "Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be." Decide to let go and be happy all the time right now. You can do it!
About the Author:
Larry Crane has been teaching The Release® Technique to executives of Fortune 500 companies for years. He has personally trained businesspeople, psychiatrists, psychologists, sports and entertainment celebrities, salespeople, managers, and housewives in the art of letting go of problems, emotions, stress, and subconscious blocks that are holding people back from having total abundance and joy in their lives. Discover for yourself your own ticket to happiness and freedom: http://www.releasetechnique.com
Almost everyone has heard the hit single "Don't Worry, Be Happy" by Bobby McFerrin. The song has a very catchy way of conveying its message of being happy to everyone. Bobby Mcferrin's simple message surely made a lot of people focus on happiness by simply telling them not to worry or fear, and just BE happy.
Living a happy, resilient, and optimistic life is wonderful, and is also good for your health. Being happy actually protects you from the stresses of life. Stress (anxiety and fear) is linked to top causes of death such as heart disease, cancer, and stroke. It is also what is keeping you from having total abundance on every level.
One of the better things ever said is "The only thing in life that doesn't change is change," and in our life we have the power to make the necessary changes if we want to. Even if we find ourselves in an unbearable situation, we can always find solace in the knowledge that it too invariably must and will change.
Social networks or relationships are essential to happiness. People are different. The key is accepting people for who or what they are, avoiding clashes and constant arguments, and LETTING GO of all of your resentments, fears, and negative habits that are holding you back.
To be happy is relatively easy; it begins with a decision. Simply decide to be a happy person.
Abraham Lincoln observed that most people for most of the time can choose how happy or stressed, how relaxed or troubled, how bright or dull their outlook to be. The choice is simple really; choose to be happy.
There are several ways by which you can do this:
11. Being grateful is a great attitude. We have so much to be thankful for. Thank the taxi driver for bringing you home safely, thank the cook for a wonderful dinner, and thank the guy who cleans your windows. Also thank the mailman for bringing you your mail, thank the police officer for making your place safe, and thank God for being alive. Whatever you can find to be grateful for, find it.
10. News is stressful. Get less of it. Some people just can't start their day without their daily dose of news. Try and think about it -- 99% of the news we hear or read is bad news. Starting the day with bad, fearful news does not seem to be a sensible thing to do, does it?
9. A religious or spiritual connection is also recommended. Being part of a spiritual or religious group with its singing, sacraments, chanting, prayers, and meditations foster inner peace.
8. Manage your time. Time is invaluable and too important to waste. Time management can be viewed as a list of rules that involves scheduling, setting goals, planning, creating lists of things to do, and prioritizing. These are the core basics of time management that should be understood to develop an efficient personal time management skill. These basic skills can be fine-tuned further to include the finer points of each skill that can give you that extra reserve to make the results you desire.
7. Laugh and laugh heartily every day. Heard a good joke? Tell your friends or family about it. As they also say, "Laughter is the best medicine."
6. Express your feelings, affections, friendship, and passion in healthy ways to people around you. They will most likely reciprocate your actions. Let go of pent-up anger and frustrations, as this is bad for your health. Instead find ways of expressing them in a way that will not cause more injury or hurt to anyone.
5. Working smart instead of hard brings tremendous personal satisfaction. It gives us a feeling of being competent in finishing our tasks. Accomplishments are necessary for all of us; they give us a sense of value. Work on things that you feel are worthy of your time. And don't forget to celebrate them once they are completed!
4. Learning is a joyful experience. Try and learn something new every day. Learning also makes us expand and broaden our horizons...and could also give us more opportunities in the future.
3. Physical exercise. Run, jog, walk, and do other things that your body was made for. Feel alive.
2. Positive attracts positive. Avoid exposure to negative elements like loud noises, toxins, and hazardous places.
And the Number One Way to be Happy:
1. LET GO, LET GO, LET GO! Letting go of the layers and layers of negative emotions, feelings, and habits is the number one critical key to being happy all the time. There is no way around this. Fortunately, there is a simple, all-natural way to do just that, quicker than you ever dreamed. It's called the Abundance Course, and you can find out more at the link below.
These are the few simple things you can do every day to be happy.
And always remember Abraham Lincoln's wise words: "Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be." Decide to let go and be happy all the time right now. You can do it!
About the Author:
Larry Crane has been teaching The Release® Technique to executives of Fortune 500 companies for years. He has personally trained businesspeople, psychiatrists, psychologists, sports and entertainment celebrities, salespeople, managers, and housewives in the art of letting go of problems, emotions, stress, and subconscious blocks that are holding people back from having total abundance and joy in their lives. Discover for yourself your own ticket to happiness and freedom: http://www.releasetechnique.com
BIG THINKING PRECEDES BIG ACHIEVEMENT
High achievement always takes place in the framework of high expectation. You'll always hit what you aim for in the long run. So why not aim high?
Have the courage to follow your dreams. It's the first step towards attaining your destiny.
If you can dream it, you can do it. If you don't have a dream, how are you going to make it come true?
In order to succeed beyond your wildest expectations, you need some wild expectations.
Copyright 2008 www.maxsteingart.com
Have the courage to follow your dreams. It's the first step towards attaining your destiny.
If you can dream it, you can do it. If you don't have a dream, how are you going to make it come true?
In order to succeed beyond your wildest expectations, you need some wild expectations.
Copyright 2008 www.maxsteingart.com
Sunday, February 17, 2008
Acres of Diamonds - by Will Edwards
Have you ever heard of the classic self help book Acres of Diamonds? It was written by Russell H Conwell (1843 - 1925) who was an American Baptist minister and founder of Temple University in Philadelphia.
Acres of Diamonds was originally a speech which it is estimated he delivered over 6,000 times to various audiences throughout the world. It was later published as a book; and remains a classic Self Improvement text.
Looking for Diamonds
Albert Einstein said, "In the middle of every difficulty lies opportunity." Once discovered, such opportunities are like valuable diamonds hidden in the sand.
Several years ago I spoke at church about how we are surrounded by "diamonds," if we could only recognize them. A man stopped by to see me. I remembered him as somebody who had suffered through a painful divorce and was examining his life's priorities. His outstretched hand contained a small, plastic gem stone.
"I stepped on this gem stone when I was leaving church last Sunday," he explained. "It became lodged in the sole of my shoe. You had spoken about recognizing opportunities - diamonds. I put the plastic stone in my pocket to remind me to look for those diamonds that I need.
"I have been trying to sell my business," he continued. On Monday morning, a man stopped by who seemed interested in purchasing some of my stock. I thought, 'Here's my diamond - don't let it get away!' I sold the entire stock to him by noon.
"Now," he said through a broad smile, "my next diamond is to find a new job!"
Not long afterward, he did find a new - and better - job. He resolved to keep his gem stone with him from then on as a reminder to look for diamonds as he digs through the difficulties of life.
Richard DeVos is accurate when he points out, "This is an exciting world. It is cram-packed with opportunity. Great moments wait around every corner." Those moments are diamonds that, if left unrecognized, will be forever lost.
Are you looking for diamonds every day? If not, you may easily pass them by! Perhaps there is a diamond of opportunity hidden in that difficulty you're experiencing now.
__________
Steve Goodier's books & Newsletter: http://LifeSupportSystem.com.
Insurmountable Opportunity
Diamonds in Disguise
It's an interesting message isn't it? We truly are surrounded by opportunity - the problem is that many of us fail to recognise it when it is staring us in the face! The truth is that many of us don't really know what a diamond actually looks like in its raw state!
Remember - diamonds do not come all nicely cut and polished, the way we usually imagine them, when taken directly from the Earth!
That is, of course, why it is important to get those goals clearly quantified and written down somewhere you can regularly see them. It will keep your subconscious mind working on the most important things.
That's it for this week. I do hope you have enjoyed the Newsletter.
With every good wish,
Will Edwards.
The White Dove Partnership
Acres of Diamonds was originally a speech which it is estimated he delivered over 6,000 times to various audiences throughout the world. It was later published as a book; and remains a classic Self Improvement text.
Looking for Diamonds
Albert Einstein said, "In the middle of every difficulty lies opportunity." Once discovered, such opportunities are like valuable diamonds hidden in the sand.
Several years ago I spoke at church about how we are surrounded by "diamonds," if we could only recognize them. A man stopped by to see me. I remembered him as somebody who had suffered through a painful divorce and was examining his life's priorities. His outstretched hand contained a small, plastic gem stone.
"I stepped on this gem stone when I was leaving church last Sunday," he explained. "It became lodged in the sole of my shoe. You had spoken about recognizing opportunities - diamonds. I put the plastic stone in my pocket to remind me to look for those diamonds that I need.
"I have been trying to sell my business," he continued. On Monday morning, a man stopped by who seemed interested in purchasing some of my stock. I thought, 'Here's my diamond - don't let it get away!' I sold the entire stock to him by noon.
"Now," he said through a broad smile, "my next diamond is to find a new job!"
Not long afterward, he did find a new - and better - job. He resolved to keep his gem stone with him from then on as a reminder to look for diamonds as he digs through the difficulties of life.
Richard DeVos is accurate when he points out, "This is an exciting world. It is cram-packed with opportunity. Great moments wait around every corner." Those moments are diamonds that, if left unrecognized, will be forever lost.
Are you looking for diamonds every day? If not, you may easily pass them by! Perhaps there is a diamond of opportunity hidden in that difficulty you're experiencing now.
__________
Steve Goodier's books & Newsletter: http://LifeSupportSystem.com.
Insurmountable Opportunity
Diamonds in Disguise
It's an interesting message isn't it? We truly are surrounded by opportunity - the problem is that many of us fail to recognise it when it is staring us in the face! The truth is that many of us don't really know what a diamond actually looks like in its raw state!
Remember - diamonds do not come all nicely cut and polished, the way we usually imagine them, when taken directly from the Earth!
That is, of course, why it is important to get those goals clearly quantified and written down somewhere you can regularly see them. It will keep your subconscious mind working on the most important things.
That's it for this week. I do hope you have enjoyed the Newsletter.
With every good wish,
Will Edwards.
The White Dove Partnership
Friday, February 15, 2008
SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE MAKE DECISIONS
To control the outcome of anything, you control the action at the point of decision making. If you let others make decisions for you, you give up control. When you control the decisions, you control the actions.
It's your life. You decide what you're going to do with it. If you don't run your own life, someone else will. You're in control of your life to the degree that you make decisions.
Take charge of your life, so there is no longer a need to ask permission of others. When you ask permission, you are giving someone veto power
over your life.
Take control and start making those decisions. Only you are responsible for your life.
Copyright 2008 maxsteingart.com
It's your life. You decide what you're going to do with it. If you don't run your own life, someone else will. You're in control of your life to the degree that you make decisions.
Take charge of your life, so there is no longer a need to ask permission of others. When you ask permission, you are giving someone veto power
over your life.
Take control and start making those decisions. Only you are responsible for your life.
Copyright 2008 maxsteingart.com
Thursday, February 14, 2008
Valentine Treasures - by Zmurod Moukadem
Valentine treasures are people who have often crossed your mind, family, friends and others, too, who in your life have shined the warmth of love or a spark of light that makes you remember them; no matter how long since you’ve actually met, each one is a luminous gem who gleams and glows in your memory, bringing special pleasures, and that’s why this Valentine comes to you: You’re one of those sparkling treasures! Just by Being You!!
Tuesday, February 12, 2008
ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING.
You determine your attitude. You can respond positively or negatively to any situation. Your attitude is not determined by circumstances, but by how you respond to your circumstances.
Any challenge facing you is not as important as your attitude towards it, for that will determine your success or failure.
It's how you react to events, not the events themselves, that determines your attitude.
Copyright 2008 www.maxsteingart.com
Any challenge facing you is not as important as your attitude towards it, for that will determine your success or failure.
It's how you react to events, not the events themselves, that determines your attitude.
Copyright 2008 www.maxsteingart.com
Monday, February 11, 2008
Lasting Love
– By Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitz
Lasting love, 'til death do us part. Married couples repeat this stanza or some variation of it in most marriage ceremonies. In its essence, two people commit to each other their love, their faithfulness, and their sacred honor for the rest of their lives. Many times, it works out just that way. Other times, the promise falls short. But in the case of Sandy and Pris, love is alive and well and will be sustained for a lifetime.
Over the past 25 years we have interviewed couples that have been successfully married for as few as 30 and as many as 60 years. We have shared 41 wonderful years together ourselves. But of all the interviews we have conducted, no love seemed greater than the love between Sandy and Pris.
We interviewed them in their home about a year and a half ago. Sandy has retired as CEO of a large American corporation. He is now investing his time and money in philanthropic causes across the USA, particularly in character education. Pris has always been interested in the arts and is a big supporter of opera theatre, in particular. Their passion for their philanthropic causes was amazing, and their commitment to their work was heartwarming. If you ever wanted to spend an evening with two of the most generous, endearing, enchanting, and wonderful people you could meet, these are the two that you would want to be with.
Before we interviewed Sandy and Pris, we thought we knew a lot about love and relationships. That evening, however, we got an education for which we will be eternally grateful.
Sandy loves Pris absolutely and completely. He loves her without conditions. He has loved her since the first time he saw her on the ski slopes near Santa Fe, New Mexico. During our interview, he looked at his bride of nearly 60 years and said, "She is still the same beautiful woman I married 60 years ago!" He had tears in his eyes. Pris choked back the tears, as she looked deep into his eyes. These were the faces of love.
Pris responded that she fell in love with this handsome, dashing man with his white skis as soon as she saw him glide effortlessly down the snow-covered mountain.
Sandy and Pris love each other from the bottom of their respective hearts and both say this today, "We have been married for more than 60 years and are more in love now than ever." Everything they said to us during the interview reinforced their unqualified love for each other.
There are many lessons to be learned from Sandy and Pris. We want to share with you what they believe to be the most important.
First, they share a mutual admiration society. They always support and encourage each other.
Secondly, they love each other very much and say so many times during each day of their lives.
Thirdly, they are totally honest with each other. They show integrity in their interactions, have undying trust in each other, and demonstrate their character by their words and by their actions.
And finally, their most important lesson of all: "Never go to bad mad at each other."
Sandy and Pris have great admiration and respect for each other. It shows in their words, their actions, their expressions, and in Sandy's case, in his voice as he sings love songs to her every morning -- off key sometimes, but always full of love and emotion.
As we concluded our interview with our usual question, "Can you imagine life without each other?" we got the answer we expected, but not a word was spoken. Their eyes welted up with tears, they gazed lovingly at each other for an extended period of time, and then they looked at us and smiled. No words were necessary. We knew their answer as well as we knew our own -- lasting love 'til death do us part.
We know you will agree -- Sandy and Pris are an inspiration to everyone. Their wonderful 61 years of marriage attest to the power of their relationship and the depth of their love. There is much to learn from these two lovebirds who have found "Lasting Love."
Lasting love, 'til death do us part. Married couples repeat this stanza or some variation of it in most marriage ceremonies. In its essence, two people commit to each other their love, their faithfulness, and their sacred honor for the rest of their lives. Many times, it works out just that way. Other times, the promise falls short. But in the case of Sandy and Pris, love is alive and well and will be sustained for a lifetime.
Over the past 25 years we have interviewed couples that have been successfully married for as few as 30 and as many as 60 years. We have shared 41 wonderful years together ourselves. But of all the interviews we have conducted, no love seemed greater than the love between Sandy and Pris.
We interviewed them in their home about a year and a half ago. Sandy has retired as CEO of a large American corporation. He is now investing his time and money in philanthropic causes across the USA, particularly in character education. Pris has always been interested in the arts and is a big supporter of opera theatre, in particular. Their passion for their philanthropic causes was amazing, and their commitment to their work was heartwarming. If you ever wanted to spend an evening with two of the most generous, endearing, enchanting, and wonderful people you could meet, these are the two that you would want to be with.
Before we interviewed Sandy and Pris, we thought we knew a lot about love and relationships. That evening, however, we got an education for which we will be eternally grateful.
Sandy loves Pris absolutely and completely. He loves her without conditions. He has loved her since the first time he saw her on the ski slopes near Santa Fe, New Mexico. During our interview, he looked at his bride of nearly 60 years and said, "She is still the same beautiful woman I married 60 years ago!" He had tears in his eyes. Pris choked back the tears, as she looked deep into his eyes. These were the faces of love.
Pris responded that she fell in love with this handsome, dashing man with his white skis as soon as she saw him glide effortlessly down the snow-covered mountain.
Sandy and Pris love each other from the bottom of their respective hearts and both say this today, "We have been married for more than 60 years and are more in love now than ever." Everything they said to us during the interview reinforced their unqualified love for each other.
There are many lessons to be learned from Sandy and Pris. We want to share with you what they believe to be the most important.
First, they share a mutual admiration society. They always support and encourage each other.
Secondly, they love each other very much and say so many times during each day of their lives.
Thirdly, they are totally honest with each other. They show integrity in their interactions, have undying trust in each other, and demonstrate their character by their words and by their actions.
And finally, their most important lesson of all: "Never go to bad mad at each other."
Sandy and Pris have great admiration and respect for each other. It shows in their words, their actions, their expressions, and in Sandy's case, in his voice as he sings love songs to her every morning -- off key sometimes, but always full of love and emotion.
As we concluded our interview with our usual question, "Can you imagine life without each other?" we got the answer we expected, but not a word was spoken. Their eyes welted up with tears, they gazed lovingly at each other for an extended period of time, and then they looked at us and smiled. No words were necessary. We knew their answer as well as we knew our own -- lasting love 'til death do us part.
We know you will agree -- Sandy and Pris are an inspiration to everyone. Their wonderful 61 years of marriage attest to the power of their relationship and the depth of their love. There is much to learn from these two lovebirds who have found "Lasting Love."
MAKE YOUR DREAMS A REALITY
You have the power and the opportunity to change your life. You can make anything you want of it. It's not difficult, it just takes some effort.
See things as you would have them be instead of as they are. Develop a personal plan that focuses on what you want, not on what you have.
Your imagination will show you how to turn possibility into reality. Visualize your goals and your subconscious will work toward making those mental picture come true.
When you picture yourself as vividly winning, that alone will contribute immeasurably to your success.
Knowing your destination is all you need to get there.
Copyright 2008 yourdailymotivation.com
See things as you would have them be instead of as they are. Develop a personal plan that focuses on what you want, not on what you have.
Your imagination will show you how to turn possibility into reality. Visualize your goals and your subconscious will work toward making those mental picture come true.
When you picture yourself as vividly winning, that alone will contribute immeasurably to your success.
Knowing your destination is all you need to get there.
Copyright 2008 yourdailymotivation.com
Sunday, February 10, 2008
What Do You Desire Out of Life - by Eduardo Dancel
What do you desire out of life? Is it more money, better relationships, or just to have more confidence and to feel good about yourself? Well, whatever it is that you desire, all is attainable. You have it within you to accomplish all that you wish. It's like a Genie in a magic lamp. All that you can ever want no matter how inconceivable it may seem to achieve right now, you can attain and accomplish. I believe that we all have within us the power to be what ever we want to be and to accomplish any goals we set our minds to. We are all born with unlimited potential. We just have to know how to unleash the power within our own minds. Refuse to believe that you have limits. You are unlimited. What your mind can conceive and believe, you can achieve. You must continually be on a path of educating your mind the right way. Only feed it with the right kind of information that will lead you to success. Your mind is like the magic lamp. Just rub it and make your wish. They will come true if you believe and start to take action on your dreams right now.
The first step is to change your mind. You must reprogram your mind the right way so that you can begin to attract all that you deserve in life. Start feeding your mind with positive thoughts and feelings of abundance and prosperity.
At first it will be very difficult to reprogram your mind because you have a lot of junk that has to be removed. All the negative thoughts and false self beliefs must first be deleted. This will not be easy though without some help. You will need the guidance of professional success coaches- mentors who are experts at whatever it is you need improvement on.
Once again we are all born with unlimited potential. We just have to know how to unleash the power within our own minds. Take action right now and decide to change your mind so that you may start your journey to a life of prosperity and abundance.
The first step is to change your mind. You must reprogram your mind the right way so that you can begin to attract all that you deserve in life. Start feeding your mind with positive thoughts and feelings of abundance and prosperity.
At first it will be very difficult to reprogram your mind because you have a lot of junk that has to be removed. All the negative thoughts and false self beliefs must first be deleted. This will not be easy though without some help. You will need the guidance of professional success coaches- mentors who are experts at whatever it is you need improvement on.
Once again we are all born with unlimited potential. We just have to know how to unleash the power within our own minds. Take action right now and decide to change your mind so that you may start your journey to a life of prosperity and abundance.
A Question of Courage - by Bruno Gideon
It was my good friend Vicky on the other end of the line. "I heard about your birthday party next week," she said. "I just wanted to let you know I'm free that evening." The moment she began talking, I realized that I had forgotten to invite her. I apologized, assuring her that she was most welcome to attend. Hanging up the phone, I was mortified by my mistake. But I was impressed with Vicky's reaction. Would I have had the courage to make such a call?
Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment
that something else is more important than fear.
- Ambrose Redmoon
We should not let our fear hold us back from pursuing our hopes.
- John F. Kennedy
Bruno's commentary
I probably would have asked myself endlessly why I wasn't invited, building up resentment over being left out. I would have been hurt, failing to realize that such situations are common in today's hurry-up, high-tech days. Emails get lost in cyberspace and voicemail messages accidentally get erased. It's much better to be like Vicky and approach these situations head-on but nicely. It keeps negativity out of life. But what if the call reveals that the lack of communication was intentional? That would open the door for further clarification about the relationship ... and isn't that a good thing, too?
Is something bothering you? Make that phone call now and clarify the situation.
About the author:
"Bruno's Minutes" are presently enjoyed by over 50,000 readers in 26 countries. What started as an experiment in 2001 quickly grew to this phenomenal number, mostly by word of mouth. Please forward this issue to those you care about and invite them to join. You can do so here and I would love to welcome your friends.
http://www.brunogideon.com/bgthoughts
Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment
that something else is more important than fear.
- Ambrose Redmoon
We should not let our fear hold us back from pursuing our hopes.
- John F. Kennedy
Bruno's commentary
I probably would have asked myself endlessly why I wasn't invited, building up resentment over being left out. I would have been hurt, failing to realize that such situations are common in today's hurry-up, high-tech days. Emails get lost in cyberspace and voicemail messages accidentally get erased. It's much better to be like Vicky and approach these situations head-on but nicely. It keeps negativity out of life. But what if the call reveals that the lack of communication was intentional? That would open the door for further clarification about the relationship ... and isn't that a good thing, too?
Is something bothering you? Make that phone call now and clarify the situation.
About the author:
"Bruno's Minutes" are presently enjoyed by over 50,000 readers in 26 countries. What started as an experiment in 2001 quickly grew to this phenomenal number, mostly by word of mouth. Please forward this issue to those you care about and invite them to join. You can do so here and I would love to welcome your friends.
http://www.brunogideon.com/bgthoughts
Friday, February 08, 2008
Mining the Moment for Something that Feels Good
Mining the moment for something that feels good, something to appreciate, something to savor, something to take in, that's what your moments are about. They're not about justifying your existence. It's justified. You exist. It's not about proving your worthiness. It's done. You're worthy. It's not about achieving success. You never get it done. It's about "How much can this moment deliver to me?" And some of you like them fast, some of you like them slow. No one's taking score. You get to choose. The only measurement is between my desire and my allowing. And your emotions tell you everything about that.
Excerpted from an Art of Allowing workshop in San Antonio, TX on Saturday, April 20th, 2002
Excerpted from an Art of Allowing workshop in San Antonio, TX on Saturday, April 20th, 2002
FEAR IS OVERCOME WITH ACTION
One of the greatest surprises you'll experience, is when you discover that you can do
what you were afraid you couldn't do.
Your obstacles will melt away, if instead of cowering before them, you make up your mind to walk boldly through them.
Do the thing you fear and fear disappears. Confront your fears, list them, get to know them and only then will you be able to put them aside and move ahead.
When you face the things that scare you, you open the door to freedom.
The only thing you have to fear, is fear itself..
Copyright 2008 yourdailymotivation.com
what you were afraid you couldn't do.
Your obstacles will melt away, if instead of cowering before them, you make up your mind to walk boldly through them.
Do the thing you fear and fear disappears. Confront your fears, list them, get to know them and only then will you be able to put them aside and move ahead.
When you face the things that scare you, you open the door to freedom.
The only thing you have to fear, is fear itself..
Copyright 2008 yourdailymotivation.com
Thursday, February 07, 2008
YOU HAVE THE POWER TO LIVE YOUR DREAMS.
The day you take complete responsibility for yourself, the day you stop making any excuses, that's the day you start moving down the road to success.
No one else can do it for you. Only you can make it happen. You're the only one that has to live your life.
Success on any major scale requires you to accept responsibility. It's up to you to choose the thoughts and actions that will lead you to success.
Your life will be what you make of it. Nothing will ever happen by itself. Success will come your way once you realize that you have to make it come your way by your own actions.
The power to succeed is yours alone.
Copyright 2008 www.yourdailymotivation.com
No one else can do it for you. Only you can make it happen. You're the only one that has to live your life.
Success on any major scale requires you to accept responsibility. It's up to you to choose the thoughts and actions that will lead you to success.
Your life will be what you make of it. Nothing will ever happen by itself. Success will come your way once you realize that you have to make it come your way by your own actions.
The power to succeed is yours alone.
Copyright 2008 www.yourdailymotivation.com
Wednesday, February 06, 2008
Life is a Balance - by David Locke
At times it can be hard, yet often necessary, to avoid the constant fight for control. Yes, it's important to remain in charge of our lives, but not everything lays soley in our own hands.
At times we need to rely on fate and destiny to have a say. If things don't always go 'according to plan', allow the wrongs and upsets to be put down to life and experience.
Failure in faith and self belief in the turn of events will lead to negativity. Believing that any bad situation carries the prospect of good fortune will allow us to remain prepaired for any uneventuallities and changes we may face. If we only take a moment to accept what was, what is, and remain focused on what can be, our paths need never be rocked in a way that unnverves us.
Life is a balance. We are all going to experience good things and bad alike. With strength and courage we have the power to face more than we give ourselves credit for. With courage and belief, we can embrase change as good thing with great possibilities that lay in wait for us.
© David Locke 2008
At times we need to rely on fate and destiny to have a say. If things don't always go 'according to plan', allow the wrongs and upsets to be put down to life and experience.
Failure in faith and self belief in the turn of events will lead to negativity. Believing that any bad situation carries the prospect of good fortune will allow us to remain prepaired for any uneventuallities and changes we may face. If we only take a moment to accept what was, what is, and remain focused on what can be, our paths need never be rocked in a way that unnverves us.
Life is a balance. We are all going to experience good things and bad alike. With strength and courage we have the power to face more than we give ourselves credit for. With courage and belief, we can embrase change as good thing with great possibilities that lay in wait for us.
© David Locke 2008
How to Give a Killer Compliment - by Brian Kim
Who doesn’t like a great compliment every now and then? It’s one of the few things on this earth that can instantly shoot our self esteem sky high.
But you know what’s even better than getting a great compliment?
Giving one.
And not just any old compliment.
I’m talking about the killer compliment.
The one that will instantly brighten a person’s day.
The one that people will write down in their journals once they get home.
The one that people will draw strength upon when they’re down.
And the one that people will remember for years to come.
That’s the one I’m talking about.
Learning how to give such a killer compliment is one of the best things to have in your social tool belt. It can do wonders for relationships. It can take them to the next level and open doors you never dreamed possible.
How can you do that?
Here are 10 steps you can take in order to give a killer compliment.
1. Really, truly, desire to give a killer compliment
Don’t compliment someone just for the sake of it. Don’t think of it as a chore or a necessity. Really want to give it to the person. Have it burn inside of you wanting to get out. If you really feel this way, then the person that you want to compliment truly deserves it.
If you really don’t want to give somebody a killer compliment, don’t even bother trying. You’re just going to sabotage yourself.
2. Prepare it
Anything of real value and quality takes time to make. Don’t just use the standard compliments.
Really dig deep and think about the person. Apart from truly desiring to compliment the person, coming up with that killer compliment is the most important thing to do. You can do so by…
3. Observing and coming up with something specific
Nothing screams insincerity louder than vagueness and clichés.
You want to choose something that is unique about that person. Make observations on any quality, mannerism, or habit, that makes them stand out from everybody else.
Make a list of the positive qualities you like about him/her.
What is it about this person you admire the most?
What separates him/her from most people?
What is the unique quality or X-factor that this person possesses that makes him who he/she is?
What would you want to tell this person about themselves if they were to embark on a 10 year journey?
Try thinking of something very little or unique, that nobody else has complimented them on before and expand on it.
Appreciate the little things the person has does.
When you find that something, make it descriptive. Be specific. Expand on it and make sure you’re able to….
4. Justify why you think it’s great
Ok, so you’ve got your killer compliment. When you lay it on them, they’re either going to be blushing or grinning from ear to ear. Don’t stop there. Justify why you think it’s great.
For example, if you killer compliment is: “I noticed that you never talk trash about people behind their back.”
Your reason can be: That’s an extremely rare quality nowadays and I think it speaks volume towards your character and integrity.”
Coming up with the reason will be a cinch. If you can come up with the compliment, you can easily come up with the reason. So don’t leave them hanging on the killer compliment. Justify it.
5. Give real life examples to back it up
Think back to the times where the person exemplified that great quality. Transport them back to that time and tell it from your perspective. In keeping with the above example, you might say something like this.
“I remember that time when everybody in the group was trash talking Jim and taking turns and having a blast. You didn’t trash talk him though. Instead, you stood up for him and backed him up when he wasn’t there. I think you gained a new measure of respect in everybody’s eyes that day.”
Having an example from the past that you remember in detail will seal the deal and remove any doubt that you’re full of….But you have to remember to…
6. Time it right
Do it when it’s just you and the other person. Don’t do it in a group. People remember one on one encounters more vividly because there’s nobody else to compete for attention.
Also, don’t just greet the person and deliver your killer compliment.
Do the standard greeting, how are you, how’s the job, and just let the conversation flow. When you are in a deep state of rapport and you’re both comfortable, that’s the time to unleash it, but don’t deliver it raw.
7. Set it up for the home run
Set it up with questions such as:
“You know what I noticed about you?”
“You know what I like about you?”
“You know what I admire most about you?”
“You know what I think is great about you?”
This is the ultimate hook. Everybody is always interested in themselves.
When you ask them these questions, you will see them snap to attention and their eyes will light up and all their attention will be focused like a laser squarely on you, which is exactly what you want.
You want them to be 100% focused on the next thing coming out of your mouth.
Deliver the killer compliment and…
8. Really believe what you say
People, especially women, are equipped with the greatest BS detectors in the world, even more advanced than the ones they have at Langley.
If you really don’t believe what you are saying, they’ll instantly pick up on the insincerity and you’ll do WAY MORE harm than good. All your future compliments will now be in question of authenticity and sincerity.
Look them dead in the eye. Lean forward. Use your body. Stress your voice when you give your killer compliment.
9. Give them sparingly
Don’t dish them out every time you have a chance. If you keep on doing it, each successive killer compliment will lose its respective value. It’s just based on the scarcity principle. Bring out the big guns when you really want or need to.
10. Don’t expect anything back
When you give the killer compliment, don’t follow up with a favor to ask. It will seem as if you were just buttering him up for something else in return.
This will negate all the effort you put into the killer compliment. Give it to them when you are not asking for anything in return.
Give freely and expect nothing in return.
You will find that when you lay this killer compliment on a person, they won’t know what to do with themselves. They’ll either be blushing furiously or just basking in their own pool of euphoric glory.
For the fortunate people who experience this, simply say “Thank you. I appreciate it.”
And don’t try to come up with a compliment of your own to give. You won’t be able to come up with one on the spot that can top the one you just got.
If you take the time to prepare and deliver killer compliments, you will find your relationships get stronger and grow to the next level. You will alo find that people will remember your compliments for years to come, draw upon it for strength, and they will never, ever forget who gave it to them.
- by Brian Kim
http://briankim.net
But you know what’s even better than getting a great compliment?
Giving one.
And not just any old compliment.
I’m talking about the killer compliment.
The one that will instantly brighten a person’s day.
The one that people will write down in their journals once they get home.
The one that people will draw strength upon when they’re down.
And the one that people will remember for years to come.
That’s the one I’m talking about.
Learning how to give such a killer compliment is one of the best things to have in your social tool belt. It can do wonders for relationships. It can take them to the next level and open doors you never dreamed possible.
How can you do that?
Here are 10 steps you can take in order to give a killer compliment.
1. Really, truly, desire to give a killer compliment
Don’t compliment someone just for the sake of it. Don’t think of it as a chore or a necessity. Really want to give it to the person. Have it burn inside of you wanting to get out. If you really feel this way, then the person that you want to compliment truly deserves it.
If you really don’t want to give somebody a killer compliment, don’t even bother trying. You’re just going to sabotage yourself.
2. Prepare it
Anything of real value and quality takes time to make. Don’t just use the standard compliments.
Really dig deep and think about the person. Apart from truly desiring to compliment the person, coming up with that killer compliment is the most important thing to do. You can do so by…
3. Observing and coming up with something specific
Nothing screams insincerity louder than vagueness and clichés.
You want to choose something that is unique about that person. Make observations on any quality, mannerism, or habit, that makes them stand out from everybody else.
Make a list of the positive qualities you like about him/her.
What is it about this person you admire the most?
What separates him/her from most people?
What is the unique quality or X-factor that this person possesses that makes him who he/she is?
What would you want to tell this person about themselves if they were to embark on a 10 year journey?
Try thinking of something very little or unique, that nobody else has complimented them on before and expand on it.
Appreciate the little things the person has does.
When you find that something, make it descriptive. Be specific. Expand on it and make sure you’re able to….
4. Justify why you think it’s great
Ok, so you’ve got your killer compliment. When you lay it on them, they’re either going to be blushing or grinning from ear to ear. Don’t stop there. Justify why you think it’s great.
For example, if you killer compliment is: “I noticed that you never talk trash about people behind their back.”
Your reason can be: That’s an extremely rare quality nowadays and I think it speaks volume towards your character and integrity.”
Coming up with the reason will be a cinch. If you can come up with the compliment, you can easily come up with the reason. So don’t leave them hanging on the killer compliment. Justify it.
5. Give real life examples to back it up
Think back to the times where the person exemplified that great quality. Transport them back to that time and tell it from your perspective. In keeping with the above example, you might say something like this.
“I remember that time when everybody in the group was trash talking Jim and taking turns and having a blast. You didn’t trash talk him though. Instead, you stood up for him and backed him up when he wasn’t there. I think you gained a new measure of respect in everybody’s eyes that day.”
Having an example from the past that you remember in detail will seal the deal and remove any doubt that you’re full of….But you have to remember to…
6. Time it right
Do it when it’s just you and the other person. Don’t do it in a group. People remember one on one encounters more vividly because there’s nobody else to compete for attention.
Also, don’t just greet the person and deliver your killer compliment.
Do the standard greeting, how are you, how’s the job, and just let the conversation flow. When you are in a deep state of rapport and you’re both comfortable, that’s the time to unleash it, but don’t deliver it raw.
7. Set it up for the home run
Set it up with questions such as:
“You know what I noticed about you?”
“You know what I like about you?”
“You know what I admire most about you?”
“You know what I think is great about you?”
This is the ultimate hook. Everybody is always interested in themselves.
When you ask them these questions, you will see them snap to attention and their eyes will light up and all their attention will be focused like a laser squarely on you, which is exactly what you want.
You want them to be 100% focused on the next thing coming out of your mouth.
Deliver the killer compliment and…
8. Really believe what you say
People, especially women, are equipped with the greatest BS detectors in the world, even more advanced than the ones they have at Langley.
If you really don’t believe what you are saying, they’ll instantly pick up on the insincerity and you’ll do WAY MORE harm than good. All your future compliments will now be in question of authenticity and sincerity.
Look them dead in the eye. Lean forward. Use your body. Stress your voice when you give your killer compliment.
9. Give them sparingly
Don’t dish them out every time you have a chance. If you keep on doing it, each successive killer compliment will lose its respective value. It’s just based on the scarcity principle. Bring out the big guns when you really want or need to.
10. Don’t expect anything back
When you give the killer compliment, don’t follow up with a favor to ask. It will seem as if you were just buttering him up for something else in return.
This will negate all the effort you put into the killer compliment. Give it to them when you are not asking for anything in return.
Give freely and expect nothing in return.
You will find that when you lay this killer compliment on a person, they won’t know what to do with themselves. They’ll either be blushing furiously or just basking in their own pool of euphoric glory.
For the fortunate people who experience this, simply say “Thank you. I appreciate it.”
And don’t try to come up with a compliment of your own to give. You won’t be able to come up with one on the spot that can top the one you just got.
If you take the time to prepare and deliver killer compliments, you will find your relationships get stronger and grow to the next level. You will alo find that people will remember your compliments for years to come, draw upon it for strength, and they will never, ever forget who gave it to them.
- by Brian Kim
http://briankim.net
MAKE CHANGE A POSITIVE PART OF YOUR LIFE
You must avoid breaking when things don't go your way. You'll always be secure to the degree that you accept change. True security comes from being able to bend your insecurities.
Recognize and accept that change will inevitably take place. You'll become secure, not by standing still, but by growing, moving, and staying energized. Be secure in the knowledge that you can deal with anything that happens to you.
Have the courage to bet on your ideas. Take some calculated risks and act on your dreams. There is no permanent security on this earth, there is only opportunity.
Copyright 2008 yourdailymotivation.com
Recognize and accept that change will inevitably take place. You'll become secure, not by standing still, but by growing, moving, and staying energized. Be secure in the knowledge that you can deal with anything that happens to you.
Have the courage to bet on your ideas. Take some calculated risks and act on your dreams. There is no permanent security on this earth, there is only opportunity.
Copyright 2008 yourdailymotivation.com
Tuesday, February 05, 2008
YOUR SUCCESS DEPENDS ON YOUR ENJOYMENT
YOUR SUCCESS DEPENDS ON YOUR ENJOYMENT
You'll never achieve real success unless you like what you're doing. What you do is more important than how much money you make. How you feel about what you do is more important than what you do.
The more you love what you're doing, the more successful it will be for you. Don't set compensation as your goal. Find the work you like and the compensation will follow.
You don't pay the price of success, you enjoy the price of success.
Copyright 2008 yourdailymotivation.com
Have a wonderful day.
You'll never achieve real success unless you like what you're doing. What you do is more important than how much money you make. How you feel about what you do is more important than what you do.
The more you love what you're doing, the more successful it will be for you. Don't set compensation as your goal. Find the work you like and the compensation will follow.
You don't pay the price of success, you enjoy the price of success.
Copyright 2008 yourdailymotivation.com
Have a wonderful day.
Monday, February 04, 2008
Virtue and Values Will Never Go Out of Style - by Joshua Stein
"Wise people, even though all laws were abolished, would still lead
the same life."
~Aristophanes
What do you do when no one is watching?
What do you do when the boss is away?
Character, virtue and values will never go out of style.
Live Victoriously,
Joshua Stein
www.thepositivewebsite.com
the same life."
~Aristophanes
What do you do when no one is watching?
What do you do when the boss is away?
Character, virtue and values will never go out of style.
Live Victoriously,
Joshua Stein
www.thepositivewebsite.com
THERE IS ALWAYS A GOOD SIDE
Be an optimist and try to see the opportunity in every misfortune, not a pessimist that sees misfortune in every opportunity. The optimist sees the doughnut, the pessimist sees the hole.
You can develop success from every failure. Discouragement and failure are two stepping stones to success. No other elements can do so much for you if you're willing to study them and make them work for you.
View every problem as an opportunity. When it is dark enough, you can see the stars.
Copyright 2008 www.yourdailymotivation.com
You can develop success from every failure. Discouragement and failure are two stepping stones to success. No other elements can do so much for you if you're willing to study them and make them work for you.
View every problem as an opportunity. When it is dark enough, you can see the stars.
Copyright 2008 www.yourdailymotivation.com
Sunday, February 03, 2008
Don't Be Afraid that your Life Will End - by Hagar Ben Israel
As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time. You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back.
Don't be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin!
Send this to all of your friends in the next 5 minutes and a miracle will happen tonight
Don't be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin!
Send this to all of your friends in the next 5 minutes and a miracle will happen tonight
LIFE RESPONDS TO YOUR OUTLOOK
The dreams you choose to believe in come to be. When you feel in your innermost being that you will achieve what you set out to do, you open the way for miracles.
Choose to believe something good can happen. Expecting it to happen energizes your goal and actually gives it momentum. What you expect to happen, happens.
If you expect to succeed, you'll succeed.
Copyright 2008 yourdailymotivation.com
Choose to believe something good can happen. Expecting it to happen energizes your goal and actually gives it momentum. What you expect to happen, happens.
If you expect to succeed, you'll succeed.
Copyright 2008 yourdailymotivation.com
Saturday, February 02, 2008
Love and Peace Will Change This World - by Darryl MacPherson
A message to all my amazing friends. You all understand how love and peace will change this world. As you go out into the world your positive vibrations will attract all things positive to you. Fake smiles and pretending to be happy does not count, you must truly feel peace and love for yourself and your life. Take a look around you and find all the good things in your life and concentrate on them. Be grateful for all the good things in your life. NEVER concentrate on the negative, just confront them and be done with them. Get rid of those negative situations, all of them. You can do it because you know there is no room for them in your positive life. Once you are cleared from negativity start attracting all things positive into your life. You can also force those who feel negative to feel your positive energy by simply smiling at them and wishing them a good day, truly feel happy for that person and they will see it.
You choose how you react to every situation and that choice will always determine the outcome of that situation. Positive vibrations will always over power the negative vibrations because you can choose to be positive at anytime and you should never be choosing to be negative; why would you?
Continue being you, and staying positive. Make people see that it is a good thing to smile because if everyone could just smile, the world would feel love & peace.
You choose how you react to every situation and that choice will always determine the outcome of that situation. Positive vibrations will always over power the negative vibrations because you can choose to be positive at anytime and you should never be choosing to be negative; why would you?
Continue being you, and staying positive. Make people see that it is a good thing to smile because if everyone could just smile, the world would feel love & peace.
FREEDOM MEANS RESPONSIBILITY
Freedom is the right to live as you wish. If you wish to free yourself from enslavement, you must choose freedom and the responsibility it entails. There's a price for every freedom, something to be given up for every liberty.
It's up to you to weigh the price you must pay for each of your freedoms. And everything you want has a price.
Freedom is the opportunity to make decisions. It's the capacity to take a hand in your own development. Freedom is the right to choose. It's the right to create for yourself the alternatives of choice.
No one is free who is not master of himself. You are free to do whatever you like. You need only face the consequences of your actions.
Copyright 2008 yourdailymotivation.com
It's up to you to weigh the price you must pay for each of your freedoms. And everything you want has a price.
Freedom is the opportunity to make decisions. It's the capacity to take a hand in your own development. Freedom is the right to choose. It's the right to create for yourself the alternatives of choice.
No one is free who is not master of himself. You are free to do whatever you like. You need only face the consequences of your actions.
Copyright 2008 yourdailymotivation.com
Friday, February 01, 2008
YOU CAN MAKE IT IF YOU TRY
You can't be beaten at anything, until you quit in your own mind. There is no failure except in your not trying. There is no defeat except from within.
You have no really insurmountable barrier except your own inherent weakness of purpose. The odds are with you if you keep on trying.
Consider yourself on a very long journey. Sustain your personal vision of success until you achieve it. In the end, you can fail only if you don't try.
Winning isn't everything, but wanting to is. Success is a road that's paved with perseverance.
Copyright 2008 www.yourdailymotivation.com
You have no really insurmountable barrier except your own inherent weakness of purpose. The odds are with you if you keep on trying.
Consider yourself on a very long journey. Sustain your personal vision of success until you achieve it. In the end, you can fail only if you don't try.
Winning isn't everything, but wanting to is. Success is a road that's paved with perseverance.
Copyright 2008 www.yourdailymotivation.com
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