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It's your life. You decide what you're going to do with it. If you don't run your own life, someone else will. You're in control of your life to the degree that you make decisions. To control the outcome of anything. You control the action at the point of decision making. If you let others make decisions for you, you give up control. When you control the decisions, you control the actions. Take charge of your life, so there is no longer a need to ask permission of others. When you ask permission, you're giving someone "veto" power over your life. Only you are responsible for your life. Take control and start making those decisions.
©2005 by Max Steingart
Wednesday, November 30, 2005
Tuesday, November 29, 2005
Plunging Into The Deep
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Life Can Be Scary
Life can take us on a roller coaster ride full of highs and lows and twists and turns. Even for those of us who enjoy unexpected thrills, it's frightening to suddenly find ourselves heading for a deep plunge. Yet, it happens to all of us. At these moments, it is important to remember that you are not alone in your experiences. No matter how brave, strong, or levelheaded we are, sometimes, we all get scared.
Our fears may revolve around our physical safety, particularly if we are not feeling well, living under difficult circumstances, or doing work that exposes us to hazardous conditions. Or, we may be experiencing financial woes that are causing us to be fearful about making ends meet. We may also fear the loss of a loved one who is sick, or we may be scared of never finding someone special to spend our life with. We may be scared to start at a new school, begin a different job, move to a new town, or meet new people. Whatever our fears are, they are valid, and we do not need to feel ashamed or embarrassed that we are, at times, afraid.
It may be comforting to know that everyone gets scared, and it is perfectly OK. Sometimes just acknowledging our fears is enough to make us feel better. And while it sometimes takes a lot more to ease our mind, we can console ourselves with the knowledge that life can be scary at times. Giving ourselves permission to be scared lets us move through our fears so we can let it go. It also makes it alright to share our fears with others. Sharing our apprehensions with other people can make our fears less overwhelming because we are not letting them grow inside of us as pent up emotions. Sharing our fears also can lighten our burden because we are not carrying our worries all by ourselves. Remember that you are not alone.
What do you think?
Life Can Be Scary
Life can take us on a roller coaster ride full of highs and lows and twists and turns. Even for those of us who enjoy unexpected thrills, it's frightening to suddenly find ourselves heading for a deep plunge. Yet, it happens to all of us. At these moments, it is important to remember that you are not alone in your experiences. No matter how brave, strong, or levelheaded we are, sometimes, we all get scared.
Our fears may revolve around our physical safety, particularly if we are not feeling well, living under difficult circumstances, or doing work that exposes us to hazardous conditions. Or, we may be experiencing financial woes that are causing us to be fearful about making ends meet. We may also fear the loss of a loved one who is sick, or we may be scared of never finding someone special to spend our life with. We may be scared to start at a new school, begin a different job, move to a new town, or meet new people. Whatever our fears are, they are valid, and we do not need to feel ashamed or embarrassed that we are, at times, afraid.
It may be comforting to know that everyone gets scared, and it is perfectly OK. Sometimes just acknowledging our fears is enough to make us feel better. And while it sometimes takes a lot more to ease our mind, we can console ourselves with the knowledge that life can be scary at times. Giving ourselves permission to be scared lets us move through our fears so we can let it go. It also makes it alright to share our fears with others. Sharing our apprehensions with other people can make our fears less overwhelming because we are not letting them grow inside of us as pent up emotions. Sharing our fears also can lighten our burden because we are not carrying our worries all by ourselves. Remember that you are not alone.
What do you think?
Make Tonight Your Night
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– By Jon Gordon
You have had a long day. All you feel like doing when you get home is crashing on the couch. After all, this may be a common occurrence. But then someone like me comes along and says it doesn't have to be this way. I ask you if you would like to have more energy in the evening. You say "yes." I ask you if you would rather be active than sitting on a couch in the evening. You say, "Yes, if only I had the energy I would be more active." Well, there are a few simple changes or additions to your evening routine that can make all the difference. Hëre are a few action steps to
make tonight your night:
1. Eat an energizing snack before dinner: According to William Nagler, M.D., psychiatrist at the Universïty of California, Los Angeles School of Medicine, evidence indicates that simple hunger-related tensions contribute to fading energy, negative emotions and late-day arguments. When you eat a snack before dinner you will most likely be in better spirits and eat less for dinner. If you are like me and you get very irritable when you don't eat, this strategy will improve your life
significantly.
Examples of healthy snacks include: fruit, soup, slice of whole grain bread and low fat yogurt
2. Create a buffer zone: Take 15 to 20 minutes to be by yourself after walking in the door before having conversations about personal, financial or professional matters. According to Robert K. Cooper, Ph.D., evidence suggests that over half of the most damaging arguments are started or magnified within fifteen minutes of people greeting each other at the end of the day. This makes sense when you think about how you feel at the end of the day. If you walk in the door and your significant other hits you with a list of bills that needs to be paid you are likely to get into an argument. Nöw I know why my mother said, "Don't talk to your father until he has eaten dinner." When we take the time to walk in the house, get comfortable and then engage in conversations and family time, we will likely have less stressful arguments.
3. Eat smaller dinners: Eat enough to satisfy you but not so much that you want to go to bed after eating.
4. Take a light 10-minute walk after dinner: Instead of plopping down to watch television, take a walk. Walking after dinner, within a half-hour time frame, is like pouring gasoline on a fire. It exponentially increases your metabolism and gives you a double boost of energy according to Bryant Stamford, Ph.D., exercise physiologist at the Universïty of Louisville. You will also likely eat less high fat foods later in the evening and be in a better mood. The walk will also help you sleep better.
5. Play at Night: Play with your kids or pet. When the weather gets warm, do some effortless gardening. Put on the music and dance. According to Robert K. Cooper, "Your body's inherent and ancient metabolic patterns are poised for a wavelike downturn from about 4 p.m." Playing at night helps us combat fatigue and stress.
6. Reflect: Think about all the things you are thankful for and say "Thank You." I like to go outside and look at the stars (a benefit of living at the beach is that you can see them) and think about how lucky I am to be alive. The world may be crazy on the outside but reflecting and being thankful can make things peaceful on the inside.
May your day be filled with boundless energy.
Visit me at http://www.jongordon.com
Jon
About the Author:
Jon Gordon is known internationally as The Energy Addict. He's been called "America's Premiere Energy Coach" by various media and organizations throughout the country. His mission is to help you fuel your life, energize your career and get addicted to positive energy. For more information, visit http://www.energyaddict.com
– By Jon Gordon
You have had a long day. All you feel like doing when you get home is crashing on the couch. After all, this may be a common occurrence. But then someone like me comes along and says it doesn't have to be this way. I ask you if you would like to have more energy in the evening. You say "yes." I ask you if you would rather be active than sitting on a couch in the evening. You say, "Yes, if only I had the energy I would be more active." Well, there are a few simple changes or additions to your evening routine that can make all the difference. Hëre are a few action steps to
make tonight your night:
1. Eat an energizing snack before dinner: According to William Nagler, M.D., psychiatrist at the Universïty of California, Los Angeles School of Medicine, evidence indicates that simple hunger-related tensions contribute to fading energy, negative emotions and late-day arguments. When you eat a snack before dinner you will most likely be in better spirits and eat less for dinner. If you are like me and you get very irritable when you don't eat, this strategy will improve your life
significantly.
Examples of healthy snacks include: fruit, soup, slice of whole grain bread and low fat yogurt
2. Create a buffer zone: Take 15 to 20 minutes to be by yourself after walking in the door before having conversations about personal, financial or professional matters. According to Robert K. Cooper, Ph.D., evidence suggests that over half of the most damaging arguments are started or magnified within fifteen minutes of people greeting each other at the end of the day. This makes sense when you think about how you feel at the end of the day. If you walk in the door and your significant other hits you with a list of bills that needs to be paid you are likely to get into an argument. Nöw I know why my mother said, "Don't talk to your father until he has eaten dinner." When we take the time to walk in the house, get comfortable and then engage in conversations and family time, we will likely have less stressful arguments.
3. Eat smaller dinners: Eat enough to satisfy you but not so much that you want to go to bed after eating.
4. Take a light 10-minute walk after dinner: Instead of plopping down to watch television, take a walk. Walking after dinner, within a half-hour time frame, is like pouring gasoline on a fire. It exponentially increases your metabolism and gives you a double boost of energy according to Bryant Stamford, Ph.D., exercise physiologist at the Universïty of Louisville. You will also likely eat less high fat foods later in the evening and be in a better mood. The walk will also help you sleep better.
5. Play at Night: Play with your kids or pet. When the weather gets warm, do some effortless gardening. Put on the music and dance. According to Robert K. Cooper, "Your body's inherent and ancient metabolic patterns are poised for a wavelike downturn from about 4 p.m." Playing at night helps us combat fatigue and stress.
6. Reflect: Think about all the things you are thankful for and say "Thank You." I like to go outside and look at the stars (a benefit of living at the beach is that you can see them) and think about how lucky I am to be alive. The world may be crazy on the outside but reflecting and being thankful can make things peaceful on the inside.
May your day be filled with boundless energy.
Visit me at http://www.jongordon.com
Jon
About the Author:
Jon Gordon is known internationally as The Energy Addict. He's been called "America's Premiere Energy Coach" by various media and organizations throughout the country. His mission is to help you fuel your life, energize your career and get addicted to positive energy. For more information, visit http://www.energyaddict.com
MAKING CHOICES IS YOUR GREATEST POWER
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While your character is formed by your circumstances, your desires can shape those circumstances. The one thing over which you have absolute control is your own thoughts. It is this that puts you in a position to control your own destiny. Nature is constantly at work around you. Character and destiny are her handiwork. She gives you love and hate, jealousy and reverence. You have the power to choose which impulse you follow. At any time you can decide to alter the course of your life. No one can ever take that away from you. You can do what you want to do and be who you want to be. Your greatest power is the power to choose.
©2005 by Max Steingart
While your character is formed by your circumstances, your desires can shape those circumstances. The one thing over which you have absolute control is your own thoughts. It is this that puts you in a position to control your own destiny. Nature is constantly at work around you. Character and destiny are her handiwork. She gives you love and hate, jealousy and reverence. You have the power to choose which impulse you follow. At any time you can decide to alter the course of your life. No one can ever take that away from you. You can do what you want to do and be who you want to be. Your greatest power is the power to choose.
©2005 by Max Steingart
Monday, November 28, 2005
Planetary Wisdom
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DailyOM Horoscopes
We are proud to announce the new DailyOM Horoscopes, a free newsletter based on your sun sign. Seven days each week, your daily astrological insight offering a more personal variety of guidance will appear in your email inbox when you register for free. True wisdom is made up of both universal knowledge and individual inspiration, and whereas the original DailyOM Inspirational message can be applied to you in a general way, the new DailyOM Horoscopes are specifically tailored to your life, as influenced by the stars.
The wisdom of astrology is based on the positions and cycles of stars and planets and can tell you much about your thoughts and feelings, your present, and your future. As you move through life, it may often feel like events are taking place for a reason or that your emotions exist outside of your control. Everything that happens to you and everything you feel has the potential to be seen as a gift from the universe. Each horoscope contains personalized insights that show you how you can benefit from each day's unique gifts. Just as the existing DailyOM Inspirational Email presents a piece of wisdom or a lesson for everyone, each horoscope presents a piece of wisdom or lesson just for you. Your DailyOM Horoscope is made up of a guide to the day related to your feelings and potential, as well as a gem of wisdom that you can apply both the day you read the horoscope and for the rest of your life.
Taken together, the DailyOM Inspirational Email and the new DailyOM Horoscopes complement each other wonderfully. We hope you will enjoy consulting the wisdom of your personal horoscope as much as you enjoy reading each day's inspirational message.
Click here for your free daily horoscope.
What do you think?
DailyOM Horoscopes
We are proud to announce the new DailyOM Horoscopes, a free newsletter based on your sun sign. Seven days each week, your daily astrological insight offering a more personal variety of guidance will appear in your email inbox when you register for free. True wisdom is made up of both universal knowledge and individual inspiration, and whereas the original DailyOM Inspirational message can be applied to you in a general way, the new DailyOM Horoscopes are specifically tailored to your life, as influenced by the stars.
The wisdom of astrology is based on the positions and cycles of stars and planets and can tell you much about your thoughts and feelings, your present, and your future. As you move through life, it may often feel like events are taking place for a reason or that your emotions exist outside of your control. Everything that happens to you and everything you feel has the potential to be seen as a gift from the universe. Each horoscope contains personalized insights that show you how you can benefit from each day's unique gifts. Just as the existing DailyOM Inspirational Email presents a piece of wisdom or a lesson for everyone, each horoscope presents a piece of wisdom or lesson just for you. Your DailyOM Horoscope is made up of a guide to the day related to your feelings and potential, as well as a gem of wisdom that you can apply both the day you read the horoscope and for the rest of your life.
Taken together, the DailyOM Inspirational Email and the new DailyOM Horoscopes complement each other wonderfully. We hope you will enjoy consulting the wisdom of your personal horoscope as much as you enjoy reading each day's inspirational message.
Click here for your free daily horoscope.
What do you think?
Influencing Your Subconscious
Can You Really Improve Your Way Of Life?
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– By Louisa Croft
Did you ever hear about that trial of flashing subconscious messages on a cinema screen that reportedly improved the sale of Coke and popcorn without the viewers being aware? Or maybe you've heard about songs where there is a message that can be transmitted to the subconscious mind without the listener actually being 'consciously' aware of it.
The latter popular fact (or fiction) hints at paranoia but nevertheless opens up the concept of subconscious influencing for good or for bad. There are hundreds of things in the world today that contain influential subliminal messages - whether they be in a natural förm occurring in our upbringing or immediate environment or whether they be synthetic or custom made. Examples of synthetic attempts to subliminally (to do with the subconscious) convey messages can be found in music, television, radio, internet advertising, hypnosis and forms of meditation. Of course if intentionally used in the media it would be unsettling, seeing as we are
at the mercy of commercial interests. But what if we could subliminally alter ourselves in ways that we want to improve and remove weaknesses?
I'm talking about subliminal messages helping us with things such as giving up smokïng or being more confident. In basic terms, a subliminal message is aimed at altering a persons' behavior, whether it be a subtle or drastic change, and you can easily control the messages sent to your subconscious mind by simply being aware of the subliminal messages and controlling them to your advantage.
In the past, audio tapes have been sold with the purpose of doing just this. Only they would be subliminally stimulating material to do with popular goals people try to achieve, such as weïght loss and public speaking. So there wasn't really much latitude to cater to people's unique individual goals.
Then what methods are there to create subliminal stimuli toward what each individual wants to achieve? Well, the traditional places used are hypnosis and therapy sessions, and other forms of self improvement provided in private consultation. But the expenses that go with this can limit its viability.
But then again why does it matter to be able to custom-make messages and not tap into the available library of problem fixers and motivation starters found in tapes, CD's and books? The answer lies in the fact that we all have different habits, different reasons why we fear success and respond differently to different words and visual stimuli.
Enter subliminal software into the frame, nöw that computers are as common a household appliance as the television. Most subliminal software programs allow you to input what you want to tell you subconscious in your own words (i.e. words that you easily digest and understand), reprogramming your mind to have the belief and optimism embedded within, eradicate the habit you're trying to overcome and choosing the way you want your body and determination to respond to a particular object, activity or event.
It's indeed something to get curious and excited about, and the makers of this subliminal software claim that what they offer allows you to do just that. A company, subliminalpc.com, promotes a software product that you download called Subliminal PC. They suggest through the use of their software that users are helped to improve confidence, losë weïght, drop bad habits, increase positive thinking, reverse depression, jealousy, intimidation, etc.... Subliminal PC is not the only software of its kind out there, with Brain Bullet being another example.
Perhaps the real benefit of this kind of product is you have nothing to lose, seeing as it requires no extra commitment in time from the user. You literally do nothing extra and just use the PC how you normally would with the program running in the background while you're 'dramatically improving the way you live for the better.' Most packages on the web can be purchased at minimal cost and there isn't much to losë nöw that dedicated time is taken out of the equation. When searching for this type of product, you need to be fully aware of your budget - generally speaking, you can find the best products for around the $40 to $50 mark. Any more and you could be spending more than you need to - and possible more than you can afford; any less, and the quality of this mind-changing product could be questionable.
Of course a conscious effort should be made to research the sciences and technologies promoted when purchasing any product of such a nature. But it just goes to show that if we recognize that our attitude toward success and failure stems from years of subconscious altering experiences and stimuli, the answer to reaching our goals would start with training our subconscious in a positive way.
About the Author:
Based in the United Kingdom and still a yöung writer at 26 years old, Louisa Taberner Croft has been completing articles very recently as a part-time interest, although plans on pursuing her interest further as her creative and factual writing styles develop and become more established.
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– By Louisa Croft
Did you ever hear about that trial of flashing subconscious messages on a cinema screen that reportedly improved the sale of Coke and popcorn without the viewers being aware? Or maybe you've heard about songs where there is a message that can be transmitted to the subconscious mind without the listener actually being 'consciously' aware of it.
The latter popular fact (or fiction) hints at paranoia but nevertheless opens up the concept of subconscious influencing for good or for bad. There are hundreds of things in the world today that contain influential subliminal messages - whether they be in a natural förm occurring in our upbringing or immediate environment or whether they be synthetic or custom made. Examples of synthetic attempts to subliminally (to do with the subconscious) convey messages can be found in music, television, radio, internet advertising, hypnosis and forms of meditation. Of course if intentionally used in the media it would be unsettling, seeing as we are
at the mercy of commercial interests. But what if we could subliminally alter ourselves in ways that we want to improve and remove weaknesses?
I'm talking about subliminal messages helping us with things such as giving up smokïng or being more confident. In basic terms, a subliminal message is aimed at altering a persons' behavior, whether it be a subtle or drastic change, and you can easily control the messages sent to your subconscious mind by simply being aware of the subliminal messages and controlling them to your advantage.
In the past, audio tapes have been sold with the purpose of doing just this. Only they would be subliminally stimulating material to do with popular goals people try to achieve, such as weïght loss and public speaking. So there wasn't really much latitude to cater to people's unique individual goals.
Then what methods are there to create subliminal stimuli toward what each individual wants to achieve? Well, the traditional places used are hypnosis and therapy sessions, and other forms of self improvement provided in private consultation. But the expenses that go with this can limit its viability.
But then again why does it matter to be able to custom-make messages and not tap into the available library of problem fixers and motivation starters found in tapes, CD's and books? The answer lies in the fact that we all have different habits, different reasons why we fear success and respond differently to different words and visual stimuli.
Enter subliminal software into the frame, nöw that computers are as common a household appliance as the television. Most subliminal software programs allow you to input what you want to tell you subconscious in your own words (i.e. words that you easily digest and understand), reprogramming your mind to have the belief and optimism embedded within, eradicate the habit you're trying to overcome and choosing the way you want your body and determination to respond to a particular object, activity or event.
It's indeed something to get curious and excited about, and the makers of this subliminal software claim that what they offer allows you to do just that. A company, subliminalpc.com, promotes a software product that you download called Subliminal PC. They suggest through the use of their software that users are helped to improve confidence, losë weïght, drop bad habits, increase positive thinking, reverse depression, jealousy, intimidation, etc.... Subliminal PC is not the only software of its kind out there, with Brain Bullet being another example.
Perhaps the real benefit of this kind of product is you have nothing to lose, seeing as it requires no extra commitment in time from the user. You literally do nothing extra and just use the PC how you normally would with the program running in the background while you're 'dramatically improving the way you live for the better.' Most packages on the web can be purchased at minimal cost and there isn't much to losë nöw that dedicated time is taken out of the equation. When searching for this type of product, you need to be fully aware of your budget - generally speaking, you can find the best products for around the $40 to $50 mark. Any more and you could be spending more than you need to - and possible more than you can afford; any less, and the quality of this mind-changing product could be questionable.
Of course a conscious effort should be made to research the sciences and technologies promoted when purchasing any product of such a nature. But it just goes to show that if we recognize that our attitude toward success and failure stems from years of subconscious altering experiences and stimuli, the answer to reaching our goals would start with training our subconscious in a positive way.
About the Author:
Based in the United Kingdom and still a yöung writer at 26 years old, Louisa Taberner Croft has been completing articles very recently as a part-time interest, although plans on pursuing her interest further as her creative and factual writing styles develop and become more established.
THE HIGHWAY TO SUCCESS IS A TOLL ROAD
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You must give up something to get whatever you want in life. The greater the value, the greater the sacrifice that will be required. Everything has a price. Nothing worthwhile will come easily to you. Work, continuous work and hard work, is the only way to accomplish the results that last. You pay a price if you want to make things better, and you pay a price for just leaving things as they are. You'll find no success at bargain basement prices.
©2005 by Max Steingart
You must give up something to get whatever you want in life. The greater the value, the greater the sacrifice that will be required. Everything has a price. Nothing worthwhile will come easily to you. Work, continuous work and hard work, is the only way to accomplish the results that last. You pay a price if you want to make things better, and you pay a price for just leaving things as they are. You'll find no success at bargain basement prices.
©2005 by Max Steingart
Friday, November 25, 2005
Microcosm Of The Universe
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The Way Of Vastu
Vastu offers you the potential to receive guidance from the source of universal abundance by creating a microcosm of the universe within your personal environment. In this way, by aligning yourself with the source of all abundance, you will find it becomes much easier to manifest your dreams of a fulfilling and prosperous life.
Just as the earth manifests forces composed of the five elements, so does the human brain. Your brain and body are electrical energy conductors. The thalamus is the relay center for all the sensory and motor activities that occur in the brain. Neurological research shows that the firing patterns of the neurons in the thalamus function differently when you are facing different directions. Your mind, then, can be considered the interactive result of the earth's magnetic field on your brain cells. You are like an energetic tuning fork! You work best when you're in harmony with your environment. If you place your body in alignment with the magnetic axis, you will think and act more in tune with nature. It will feel as though you're flowing along with the current of a stream instead of struggling to swim against the flow.
Your success is directly related to the orientation and shape of your environment. Whether the space in question is an apartment, a home, an office building, or a single office within a larger building, the east and north directions exert important, beneficial influences on the inhabitants. Structures that are oriented to the east receive positive solar influences. Those oriented to the north gain positive magnetic influences. In order for you to experience their blessings of prosperity and abundance, creativity and productivity, the abundant energies from these two directions must enter an environment without obstruction. If these beneficial energies are blocked, you will experience setbacks and frustrations, and you will use up more energy than necessary to create the life you desire.
In a square or rectangular structure, the five elements enhance and support your life at an optimum level. An irregularly shaped structure, on the other hand, interrupts their natural flow. When the five elements are not free to circulate properly, their energies get stuck and create stress in the environment. This is similar to a river that winds in so many directions that the water gets trapped in eddies, becomes stagnant, and moves slowly. According to one of the premises of Einstein's Kinetic Theory of Matter, atoms move in a straight line and are always in motion. This motion is facilitated by a square or rectangular shape.
This is reprinted from The Way of Vastu: Creating Prosperity Through The Power Of The Vedas by Michael and Robin Mastro.
What do you think?
The Way Of Vastu
Vastu offers you the potential to receive guidance from the source of universal abundance by creating a microcosm of the universe within your personal environment. In this way, by aligning yourself with the source of all abundance, you will find it becomes much easier to manifest your dreams of a fulfilling and prosperous life.
Just as the earth manifests forces composed of the five elements, so does the human brain. Your brain and body are electrical energy conductors. The thalamus is the relay center for all the sensory and motor activities that occur in the brain. Neurological research shows that the firing patterns of the neurons in the thalamus function differently when you are facing different directions. Your mind, then, can be considered the interactive result of the earth's magnetic field on your brain cells. You are like an energetic tuning fork! You work best when you're in harmony with your environment. If you place your body in alignment with the magnetic axis, you will think and act more in tune with nature. It will feel as though you're flowing along with the current of a stream instead of struggling to swim against the flow.
Your success is directly related to the orientation and shape of your environment. Whether the space in question is an apartment, a home, an office building, or a single office within a larger building, the east and north directions exert important, beneficial influences on the inhabitants. Structures that are oriented to the east receive positive solar influences. Those oriented to the north gain positive magnetic influences. In order for you to experience their blessings of prosperity and abundance, creativity and productivity, the abundant energies from these two directions must enter an environment without obstruction. If these beneficial energies are blocked, you will experience setbacks and frustrations, and you will use up more energy than necessary to create the life you desire.
In a square or rectangular structure, the five elements enhance and support your life at an optimum level. An irregularly shaped structure, on the other hand, interrupts their natural flow. When the five elements are not free to circulate properly, their energies get stuck and create stress in the environment. This is similar to a river that winds in so many directions that the water gets trapped in eddies, becomes stagnant, and moves slowly. According to one of the premises of Einstein's Kinetic Theory of Matter, atoms move in a straight line and are always in motion. This motion is facilitated by a square or rectangular shape.
This is reprinted from The Way of Vastu: Creating Prosperity Through The Power Of The Vedas by Michael and Robin Mastro.
What do you think?
Be Thankful
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- By Unknown Author
Be thankful that you don't already have everything you desire, If you did, what would there be to look forward to?
Be thankful when you don't know something For it gives you the opportunity to learn.
Be thankful for the difficult times. During those times you grow.
Be thankful for your limitations. Because they give you opportunities for improvement.
Be thankful for each new challenge. Because it will build your strength and character.
Be thankful for your mistakes. They will teach you valuable lessons.
Be thankful when you're tired and weary. Because it means you've made a difference.
It is easy to be thankful for the good things. A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who are also thankful for the setbacks.
GRATITUDE can turn a negative into a positive. Find a way to be thankful for your troubles and they can become your blessings.
~ Author Unknown ~
- By Unknown Author
Be thankful that you don't already have everything you desire, If you did, what would there be to look forward to?
Be thankful when you don't know something For it gives you the opportunity to learn.
Be thankful for the difficult times. During those times you grow.
Be thankful for your limitations. Because they give you opportunities for improvement.
Be thankful for each new challenge. Because it will build your strength and character.
Be thankful for your mistakes. They will teach you valuable lessons.
Be thankful when you're tired and weary. Because it means you've made a difference.
It is easy to be thankful for the good things. A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who are also thankful for the setbacks.
GRATITUDE can turn a negative into a positive. Find a way to be thankful for your troubles and they can become your blessings.
~ Author Unknown ~
ALL KNOWLEDGE IS POWER
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You build the power to accomplish your goals when you educate yourself.This power comes from knowing how to do something.Power is the product of understanding. The most successful people in life are the ones with the best information.People with power are people who know how to get things done.Knowing how to do something is sometimesvirtually the same as having done it.Knowledge will come to youby having your eyes and mind always open.There is no knowledge that is not power. In the land of the blind, the one eyed man is king.
©2005 by Max Steingart
You build the power to accomplish your goals when you educate yourself.This power comes from knowing how to do something.Power is the product of understanding. The most successful people in life are the ones with the best information.People with power are people who know how to get things done.Knowing how to do something is sometimesvirtually the same as having done it.Knowledge will come to youby having your eyes and mind always open.There is no knowledge that is not power. In the land of the blind, the one eyed man is king.
©2005 by Max Steingart
Thursday, November 24, 2005
Savoring Ceremony
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Tea Rituals
Coffee may be the power beverage that gets us revved up in the morning and fuels us when we're burning the midnight oil, but tea is the drink we turn to when we want to relax and be refreshed at the same time. Black, green, white, herbal, hot, or ice cold, tea is more than a soothing beverage. It can be a ritual, a cultural experience, and even a spiritual practice.
The reverence for tea has inspired ceremony in many cultures. From the spirituality of Chanoyu, the Japanese way of preparing and serving tea, to the sharing of Maté in Latin America, tea rituals are for celebration, ceremony, and relationship bonding. In China, tea rituals are part of many wedding ceremonies with the bride and groom serving their elder relatives in a show of respect and gratitude. The Chinese art of drinking and serving tea has been a source of inspiration for poetry and song. The Russian custom of chaepitie has inspired a unique style of teapots, caddies, teacups, and cozies. The samovar, a special brewing device, has become the symbol of the Russian tea ceremony and an object of art in its own right. Iced tea, popular in the U.S., as well as other parts of the world, is a modern ritual bringing cool relief on a sweltering summer day.
You can turn your own tea time with a friend into a simple ceremony by preparing your tea with the intention of offering nourishment and good wishes to the other person. When you are seated together, rather than drinking your tea right away, look at one another and express your gratitude and appreciation for your friendship. When you pour the tea, again intend it as an offering. Drink your tea slowly, savoring its flavor and aroma. Let its warmth or its coolness soothe your body. When you are finished drinking your tea, thank your friend for taking part in this nourishing ritual with you. Whether savored in the presence of another or tasted alone, the custom of drinking tea provides a soothing pause in our hectic world. Drinking tea can be a daily ritual that brings inner calm and clarity to the body, mind, and soul.
What do you think?
Tea Rituals
Coffee may be the power beverage that gets us revved up in the morning and fuels us when we're burning the midnight oil, but tea is the drink we turn to when we want to relax and be refreshed at the same time. Black, green, white, herbal, hot, or ice cold, tea is more than a soothing beverage. It can be a ritual, a cultural experience, and even a spiritual practice.
The reverence for tea has inspired ceremony in many cultures. From the spirituality of Chanoyu, the Japanese way of preparing and serving tea, to the sharing of Maté in Latin America, tea rituals are for celebration, ceremony, and relationship bonding. In China, tea rituals are part of many wedding ceremonies with the bride and groom serving their elder relatives in a show of respect and gratitude. The Chinese art of drinking and serving tea has been a source of inspiration for poetry and song. The Russian custom of chaepitie has inspired a unique style of teapots, caddies, teacups, and cozies. The samovar, a special brewing device, has become the symbol of the Russian tea ceremony and an object of art in its own right. Iced tea, popular in the U.S., as well as other parts of the world, is a modern ritual bringing cool relief on a sweltering summer day.
You can turn your own tea time with a friend into a simple ceremony by preparing your tea with the intention of offering nourishment and good wishes to the other person. When you are seated together, rather than drinking your tea right away, look at one another and express your gratitude and appreciation for your friendship. When you pour the tea, again intend it as an offering. Drink your tea slowly, savoring its flavor and aroma. Let its warmth or its coolness soothe your body. When you are finished drinking your tea, thank your friend for taking part in this nourishing ritual with you. Whether savored in the presence of another or tasted alone, the custom of drinking tea provides a soothing pause in our hectic world. Drinking tea can be a daily ritual that brings inner calm and clarity to the body, mind, and soul.
What do you think?
Your Ideal Self and Life
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- By Brian Tracy
Your self-concept is made up of three parts, each of which affects each of the others. Understanding these three parts enables you to put your hands on the keyboard of your own mental computer. When you learn to take charge of the development of a new and positive self-concept of selling, you can then control your sales destiny for the rest of your career.
Determine Your Direction
The first part of the self-concept is the "self-ideal." Your self-ideal largely determines the direction in which you are going with your life. It guides the growth and evolution of your character and personality. Your self-ideal is a combination of all of the qualities and attributes of other people that you most admire. Your self-ideal is a description of the person you would very much like to be if you could embody the qualities that you most aspire to.
Strive Toward Excellence
Throughout your life, you have seen and read about the qualities of courage, confidence, compassion, love, fortitude, perseverance, patience, forgiveness and integrity. Over time, these qualities have distilled in you an ideal to which you aspire. You might not always live up to the very best that you know, but you are constantly striving to be a better person in light of those qualities that you value so highly. In fact, everything that you do on a day-to-day basis is affected by your comparing your activities with these ideal qualities and your striving to behave consistent with them.
Clarity Is Essential
Successful salespeople have very clear ideals for themselves and their careers. Unsuccessful salespeople have fuzzy ideals. Successful salespeople are very clear about being excellent in every part of their work and their personal lives. Unsuccessful salespeople don't give the subject very much thought. One of the primary characteristics of successful men and women in every walk of life is that they have very clearly defined ideals and they are very aware of whether or not their current behaviors are consistent with their idealized behaviors.
Set Challenging Goals
Part of your ideals are your goals. As you set higher and more challenging goals, your self-ideal improves and crystallizes. When you set goals for the kind of person you want to be and the kind of life you want to live, your self-ideal rises and becomes a greater guiding and motivating force in your life.
Your Future Is Unlimited
Perhaps the most important thing for you to realize is that whatever anyone else has done or become, you can do or become as well. Improvements in your self-ideal begin in your imagination, and in your imagination, there are no limits except the ones that you accept.
What is your ideal vision of the very best person you could possibly become? How would you behave each day if you were already that person? Asking yourself these questions and then living your life consistent with the answers is the first step to creating yourself in your ideal image.
Action Exercises
Here are two things you can do immediately to put these ideas into action.
First, dream big dreams. Set big, exciting, challenging goals and ideals for yourself in every part of your life. Allow yourself to imagine a wonderful life ahead.
Second, think about how you would act if you were an outstanding person in every way. Then, practice being this person, as though you were acting a role in a play.
You’ll immediately notice a difference in your behavior.
About the Author:
Brian Tracy is the most listened to audio author on personal and business success in the world today. His fast-moving talks and seminars on leadership, sales, managerial effectiveness and business strategy are loaded with powerful, proven ideas and strategies that people can immediately apply to get better results in every area. You can visit his web site at http://www.briantracy.com.
- By Brian Tracy
Your self-concept is made up of three parts, each of which affects each of the others. Understanding these three parts enables you to put your hands on the keyboard of your own mental computer. When you learn to take charge of the development of a new and positive self-concept of selling, you can then control your sales destiny for the rest of your career.
Determine Your Direction
The first part of the self-concept is the "self-ideal." Your self-ideal largely determines the direction in which you are going with your life. It guides the growth and evolution of your character and personality. Your self-ideal is a combination of all of the qualities and attributes of other people that you most admire. Your self-ideal is a description of the person you would very much like to be if you could embody the qualities that you most aspire to.
Strive Toward Excellence
Throughout your life, you have seen and read about the qualities of courage, confidence, compassion, love, fortitude, perseverance, patience, forgiveness and integrity. Over time, these qualities have distilled in you an ideal to which you aspire. You might not always live up to the very best that you know, but you are constantly striving to be a better person in light of those qualities that you value so highly. In fact, everything that you do on a day-to-day basis is affected by your comparing your activities with these ideal qualities and your striving to behave consistent with them.
Clarity Is Essential
Successful salespeople have very clear ideals for themselves and their careers. Unsuccessful salespeople have fuzzy ideals. Successful salespeople are very clear about being excellent in every part of their work and their personal lives. Unsuccessful salespeople don't give the subject very much thought. One of the primary characteristics of successful men and women in every walk of life is that they have very clearly defined ideals and they are very aware of whether or not their current behaviors are consistent with their idealized behaviors.
Set Challenging Goals
Part of your ideals are your goals. As you set higher and more challenging goals, your self-ideal improves and crystallizes. When you set goals for the kind of person you want to be and the kind of life you want to live, your self-ideal rises and becomes a greater guiding and motivating force in your life.
Your Future Is Unlimited
Perhaps the most important thing for you to realize is that whatever anyone else has done or become, you can do or become as well. Improvements in your self-ideal begin in your imagination, and in your imagination, there are no limits except the ones that you accept.
What is your ideal vision of the very best person you could possibly become? How would you behave each day if you were already that person? Asking yourself these questions and then living your life consistent with the answers is the first step to creating yourself in your ideal image.
Action Exercises
Here are two things you can do immediately to put these ideas into action.
First, dream big dreams. Set big, exciting, challenging goals and ideals for yourself in every part of your life. Allow yourself to imagine a wonderful life ahead.
Second, think about how you would act if you were an outstanding person in every way. Then, practice being this person, as though you were acting a role in a play.
You’ll immediately notice a difference in your behavior.
About the Author:
Brian Tracy is the most listened to audio author on personal and business success in the world today. His fast-moving talks and seminars on leadership, sales, managerial effectiveness and business strategy are loaded with powerful, proven ideas and strategies that people can immediately apply to get better results in every area. You can visit his web site at http://www.briantracy.com.
DESIRE IS THE STARTING POINT FOR SUCCESS
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The first thing that will contribute to reaching your goal is that you simply want to reach it badly enough. You must learn how to desire with sufficient intensity to be successful. If you have the desire you have the power to attain success. You can really have anything you want in life if you go after it. But you have to want it. As a drowning soul desires air, as a shipwrecked person craves fresh water, so must you feel that intense, eager, insistent, demanding, ravenous desire for your success. Your desire for success must be so strong within you that it becomes the very breath of your life. It must be your first thought when you wake up, and your last thought when you go to bed at night. You can have anything you want if you go after it with intensity.
©2005 by Max Steingart
The first thing that will contribute to reaching your goal is that you simply want to reach it badly enough. You must learn how to desire with sufficient intensity to be successful. If you have the desire you have the power to attain success. You can really have anything you want in life if you go after it. But you have to want it. As a drowning soul desires air, as a shipwrecked person craves fresh water, so must you feel that intense, eager, insistent, demanding, ravenous desire for your success. Your desire for success must be so strong within you that it becomes the very breath of your life. It must be your first thought when you wake up, and your last thought when you go to bed at night. You can have anything you want if you go after it with intensity.
©2005 by Max Steingart
Wednesday, November 23, 2005
Burning Brightly
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Allowing Your Soul To Shine
At times, we've all wanted to crawl under a rock and hide away from the world. We may have preferred to be invisible rather than let other people see us or notice that we exist. This desire not to be seen often happens when we are feeling very hurt, angry, or simply weary of the world. And while we may console ourselves with the defense that we are shy, an introvert, or a loner, we may actually be hiding.
When we hide and make believe that we are invisible, we can think that we no one sees us even though, truthfully, we are only really hiding from ourselves. And while we may try to live life as inconspicuously as possible, we only succeed in becoming more conspicuous because people can't help but notice that we are trying to hide our light. None of us are meant to hide; each one of us radiates a unique brilliance that is meant to illuminate the world. When we try to dim our light, we diminish the natural radiance of the Universe, and we deprive the people around us of the unique gifts and talents that we are here to share.
Stepping out of the wings and letting your light shine is actually a way to serve the planet. We each have a responsibility to contribute to our community, and we do this when we let ourselves be seen. It doesn't do anyone any good when we try to hide. We are all beings of light and we are here to light the way for each other. When we let ourselves shine, we become a bright mirror that others can see their own reflected brilliance through, and they can't help but want to shine also. Shine your light out into the world, bless those around you by sharing your gifts, and watch the universe glow.
What do you think?
Allowing Your Soul To Shine
At times, we've all wanted to crawl under a rock and hide away from the world. We may have preferred to be invisible rather than let other people see us or notice that we exist. This desire not to be seen often happens when we are feeling very hurt, angry, or simply weary of the world. And while we may console ourselves with the defense that we are shy, an introvert, or a loner, we may actually be hiding.
When we hide and make believe that we are invisible, we can think that we no one sees us even though, truthfully, we are only really hiding from ourselves. And while we may try to live life as inconspicuously as possible, we only succeed in becoming more conspicuous because people can't help but notice that we are trying to hide our light. None of us are meant to hide; each one of us radiates a unique brilliance that is meant to illuminate the world. When we try to dim our light, we diminish the natural radiance of the Universe, and we deprive the people around us of the unique gifts and talents that we are here to share.
Stepping out of the wings and letting your light shine is actually a way to serve the planet. We each have a responsibility to contribute to our community, and we do this when we let ourselves be seen. It doesn't do anyone any good when we try to hide. We are all beings of light and we are here to light the way for each other. When we let ourselves shine, we become a bright mirror that others can see their own reflected brilliance through, and they can't help but want to shine also. Shine your light out into the world, bless those around you by sharing your gifts, and watch the universe glow.
What do you think?
10 Ideas to Help You Remember
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– By Maria Gracia
You are busy and you have tons of things to do. How can you possibly remember it all?
Having a sharp memory recall can be as simple as finding ways to help jog your memory throughout the day. Hëre are 10 quick ideas:
1. Write It Down.
With the amount of things you have to remember in any given day, why should you try to stuff it all into your memory bank? When you want to remember something, the very best thing to do is write it down. Then, when you need to recall it, it will be there for you in an instant.
2. Keep It Together.
When you write down things you want to remember, keep them in one consistent place. Otherwise, you're going to spend a lot of time looking for your notes.
3. Maintain Good Health.
Eat healthy foods, get enough sleep, and exercise. These are all important for your memory, staying focused and being alert.
4. Record Your Thoughts.
Sometimes you might want to remember something, but it's impossible for you to write it down, such as when you're driving. A little hand held tape recorder is a wonderful gadget to carry around with you and record your thoughts, or your parking space number, or a phöne number you see on a billboard.
5. Call Yourself.
If you're at the office, and you want to do something when you arrive home, call your answering machine and leave yourself a message. When you get home, you'll listen to your message and remember exactly what you wanted to do.
6. Believe In Yourself.
If you keep saying you have a bad memory, you'll probably continue to have a bad memory. It's important to have a motivated, I CAN remember attitude.
7. Send Yourself E-Mail Reminders.
There are many frëe e-mail reminder services available. You simply type in what you want to remember, such as a birthday, anniversary or event, and you then receive an e-mail reminder when the date is approaching.
8. Post Sticky Notes.
Those wonderful, little sticky notes can be amazing memory helpers. Want to remember something before you leave the house? Jot it down on a Post-It Note and stick it on the inside of your door. You'll be sure to see it as you're getting ready to walk out. Have to make an urgënt call first thing in the morning? Leave a Post-It Note on your telephone.
9. Set Timers and Alarms.
Take advantage of alarm clocks and timers throughout the day. Have to take the clothes out of the wash at 3:00? Set your alarm clock to remind you. Want to leave for the basketball game by 6:15? Set your timer to beep a few minutes before.
10. Use Visual Reminders.
Visual reminders can help you remember and focus. I especially like visual reminders for remembering your goals. If your goal is to take a trip to a beautiful island in a few years, keep a magazine photograph of the island right on your desk. If your goal is to own your own business one day, find a picture or ornament that will help remind you of this goal each day.
About the Author:
Maria Gracia, founder of http://www.getorganizednow.com and author of the book "Finally Organized, Finally Frëe," can help you organize your home, your office and your life.
– By Maria Gracia
You are busy and you have tons of things to do. How can you possibly remember it all?
Having a sharp memory recall can be as simple as finding ways to help jog your memory throughout the day. Hëre are 10 quick ideas:
1. Write It Down.
With the amount of things you have to remember in any given day, why should you try to stuff it all into your memory bank? When you want to remember something, the very best thing to do is write it down. Then, when you need to recall it, it will be there for you in an instant.
2. Keep It Together.
When you write down things you want to remember, keep them in one consistent place. Otherwise, you're going to spend a lot of time looking for your notes.
3. Maintain Good Health.
Eat healthy foods, get enough sleep, and exercise. These are all important for your memory, staying focused and being alert.
4. Record Your Thoughts.
Sometimes you might want to remember something, but it's impossible for you to write it down, such as when you're driving. A little hand held tape recorder is a wonderful gadget to carry around with you and record your thoughts, or your parking space number, or a phöne number you see on a billboard.
5. Call Yourself.
If you're at the office, and you want to do something when you arrive home, call your answering machine and leave yourself a message. When you get home, you'll listen to your message and remember exactly what you wanted to do.
6. Believe In Yourself.
If you keep saying you have a bad memory, you'll probably continue to have a bad memory. It's important to have a motivated, I CAN remember attitude.
7. Send Yourself E-Mail Reminders.
There are many frëe e-mail reminder services available. You simply type in what you want to remember, such as a birthday, anniversary or event, and you then receive an e-mail reminder when the date is approaching.
8. Post Sticky Notes.
Those wonderful, little sticky notes can be amazing memory helpers. Want to remember something before you leave the house? Jot it down on a Post-It Note and stick it on the inside of your door. You'll be sure to see it as you're getting ready to walk out. Have to make an urgënt call first thing in the morning? Leave a Post-It Note on your telephone.
9. Set Timers and Alarms.
Take advantage of alarm clocks and timers throughout the day. Have to take the clothes out of the wash at 3:00? Set your alarm clock to remind you. Want to leave for the basketball game by 6:15? Set your timer to beep a few minutes before.
10. Use Visual Reminders.
Visual reminders can help you remember and focus. I especially like visual reminders for remembering your goals. If your goal is to take a trip to a beautiful island in a few years, keep a magazine photograph of the island right on your desk. If your goal is to own your own business one day, find a picture or ornament that will help remind you of this goal each day.
About the Author:
Maria Gracia, founder of http://www.getorganizednow.com and author of the book "Finally Organized, Finally Frëe," can help you organize your home, your office and your life.
LOVE IS ETERNAL
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Once you have learned to love; who you are, what you do, and those around you, you will have truly learned to live. Search for love, for it is the most important ingredient of life. Without it, you life will echo emptiness. With it, your life will vibrate with warmth and meaning. Even during any hardship, love will shine through. To love abundantly is to live abundantly. To love forever is to live forever. Be thankful for what you have now, and the opportunities for love and success that are before you.
Happy Thanksgiving.
©2005 by Max Steingart
Once you have learned to love; who you are, what you do, and those around you, you will have truly learned to live. Search for love, for it is the most important ingredient of life. Without it, you life will echo emptiness. With it, your life will vibrate with warmth and meaning. Even during any hardship, love will shine through. To love abundantly is to live abundantly. To love forever is to live forever. Be thankful for what you have now, and the opportunities for love and success that are before you.
Happy Thanksgiving.
©2005 by Max Steingart
Tuesday, November 22, 2005
Embracing Unpredictability
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When Life Throws You A Curve Ball
In life, we are always setting goals for ourselves and working to make them happen. This gives us focus and ensures that we use our time and energy efficiently and effectively. It also provides us with a sense of purpose and direction. We know where we are going and what we want to do. But quite often, due to forces outside our control, things do not go as we had planned-the flat tire on the way to the wedding, the unforeseen flu virus-and we have to adjust to a postponement or create a whole new set of circumstances. Even positive turns of fortune - an unexpected influx of cash or falling in love - require us to be flexible and to reconsider our plans and priorities, sometimes in the blink of an eye. This is what happens when life throws you a curve ball.
The ability to accept what is happening and let go of your original expectations is key when dealing with these unexpected turns of fate. We have a tendency to get stuck in our heads, clinging to an idea of how we think life should go, and we can have a hard time accepting anything that doesn't comply with that idea. The fact is that life is unpredictable. The trip you thought was for business - and when the deal fell through, you got depressed - actually landed you at the airport two days earlier than planned so you could meet the love of your life. Your car breaks down, and you are late for an appointment. While it's true that you never arrive at that important meeting, you end up spending a few relaxing hours with people you would never have met otherwise.
In order to keep us awake to opportunity and to teach us equanimity, the universe throws us the occasional curve ball. Remember that curve balls are not only life's way of keeping us awake, which is a gift in and of itself; they are also often life's way of bringing us wonderful surprises. Next time a curve ball comes your way, take a deep breath, say thank you, and open your mind to a new opportunity.
What do you think?
When Life Throws You A Curve Ball
In life, we are always setting goals for ourselves and working to make them happen. This gives us focus and ensures that we use our time and energy efficiently and effectively. It also provides us with a sense of purpose and direction. We know where we are going and what we want to do. But quite often, due to forces outside our control, things do not go as we had planned-the flat tire on the way to the wedding, the unforeseen flu virus-and we have to adjust to a postponement or create a whole new set of circumstances. Even positive turns of fortune - an unexpected influx of cash or falling in love - require us to be flexible and to reconsider our plans and priorities, sometimes in the blink of an eye. This is what happens when life throws you a curve ball.
The ability to accept what is happening and let go of your original expectations is key when dealing with these unexpected turns of fate. We have a tendency to get stuck in our heads, clinging to an idea of how we think life should go, and we can have a hard time accepting anything that doesn't comply with that idea. The fact is that life is unpredictable. The trip you thought was for business - and when the deal fell through, you got depressed - actually landed you at the airport two days earlier than planned so you could meet the love of your life. Your car breaks down, and you are late for an appointment. While it's true that you never arrive at that important meeting, you end up spending a few relaxing hours with people you would never have met otherwise.
In order to keep us awake to opportunity and to teach us equanimity, the universe throws us the occasional curve ball. Remember that curve balls are not only life's way of keeping us awake, which is a gift in and of itself; they are also often life's way of bringing us wonderful surprises. Next time a curve ball comes your way, take a deep breath, say thank you, and open your mind to a new opportunity.
What do you think?
10 Steps to Detect and Stop Secrët Self-Sabotage
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– By Guy Finley
It's a little known - yet much denied fact - that people treat you the way you secretly ask to be treated. Your unspoken request that determines how others behave toward you is extended to - and received by - everyone you meet.
What is your invisible inner life? It's the way you actually feel - as opposed to the way you're trying to appear - when meeting any person or event.
In other words, your invisible inner life is your real inner condition. It's this state of internal affairs that communicates with others long before any words are exchanged. These silent signals from your inner self are what a person receives first upon meeting you. The reading of them determines from that point forward, the basis of your relationship. This unseen dialogue that goes on behind the scenes whenever two people meet is commonly understood as "sizing one another up." But hëre's the point of this introduction.
We're often led to act against ourselves by an undetected weakness that goes before us - trying to pass itself off to others - as strength. This is secrët self-sabotage. It sinks us in our personal and business relationships as surely as a torpedo wrecks the ship it strikes.
Any person you feel the need to control or dominate - so that he or she will treat you as you "think" you should be treated - will always be in control of you and treat you accordingly. Why? Because anyone from whom you want something, psychologically speaking, is always in secrët command of you.
It would nevër dawn on any person to want to be more powerful or superior to someone else unless there was some psychic character within him or her that secretly felt itself to be weaker or lesser than that other individual.
Any action we take to appear strong before another person is actually read by that person as a weakness. If you doubt this finding, review the past interactions and results of your own relationships. The general rule of thumb is that the more you demand or crave the respect of others, the less likely you are to receive it.
So it makes no sense to try and change the way others treat you by learning calculated behaviors or attitude techniques in order to appear in charge. Stop trying to be strong. Instead, start catching yourself about to act from weakness. Don't be too surprised by this unusual instruction. A brief examination reveals its wisdom. Following are ten examples of where you may be secretly sabotaging yourself while wrongly assuming you're strengthening your position with others.
1. Fawning before people to wïn their favor.
2. Expressing contrived concern for someone's well being.
3. Making small talk to smooth out the edges.
4. Hanging onto someone's every word.
5. Looking for someone's approval.
6. Asking if someone is angry with you.
7. Fishing for a kind word.
8. Trying to impress someone.
9. Gossiping.
10. Explaining yourself to others.
The next time you feel yourself about to give in to any of the above behaviors, give yourself a quick and simple internal test. This test will help you chëck for and cancel any undetected weakness that's about to make you sabotage yourself.
Hëre's what to do: Run a pressure chëck.
Hëre's how:
Come wide awake and run a quick inner scan within yourself to see if that remark you're about to make, or the answer you're about to give without having been asked for it, is something you really want to do. Are you about to speak because you're afraid of some as yet undisclosed consequence if you don't?
Your awareness of any pressure building within you is proof that it's some förm of fear - and not you - that wants to do the explaining, fawning, impressing, blabbing, or whatever the self-sabotaging act the inner pressure is pushing you to commit.
Each time you feel this pressurized urge to give yourself away, silently but solidly refuse to release this pressure by giving in to its demands. It may help you to succeed sooner if you know that fear has no voice unless it tricks you into giving it one. So stay silent. Your conscious silence stops self-sabotage.
Special Summary: In any and every moment of your life, you are either in command of yourself or you are being commanded.
Excerpted from Design Your Destiny, Copyright 1999 - Guy Finley. Published by Llewellyn Publications
About the Author:
Guy Finley is the best-selling author of more than 18 books and tape albums on self-realization and higher success. His works, which have sold over a million copies worldwide and have been translated into ten languages, are recommended by doctors, ministers, and industry leaders. For information about Guy Finley's books, booklets, tapes, and helpful on-going study groups call (541) 476-1200 or visit
http://www.guyfinley.com where you can also sign up to receive a frëe, weekly Key Lesson.
– By Guy Finley
It's a little known - yet much denied fact - that people treat you the way you secretly ask to be treated. Your unspoken request that determines how others behave toward you is extended to - and received by - everyone you meet.
What is your invisible inner life? It's the way you actually feel - as opposed to the way you're trying to appear - when meeting any person or event.
In other words, your invisible inner life is your real inner condition. It's this state of internal affairs that communicates with others long before any words are exchanged. These silent signals from your inner self are what a person receives first upon meeting you. The reading of them determines from that point forward, the basis of your relationship. This unseen dialogue that goes on behind the scenes whenever two people meet is commonly understood as "sizing one another up." But hëre's the point of this introduction.
We're often led to act against ourselves by an undetected weakness that goes before us - trying to pass itself off to others - as strength. This is secrët self-sabotage. It sinks us in our personal and business relationships as surely as a torpedo wrecks the ship it strikes.
Any person you feel the need to control or dominate - so that he or she will treat you as you "think" you should be treated - will always be in control of you and treat you accordingly. Why? Because anyone from whom you want something, psychologically speaking, is always in secrët command of you.
It would nevër dawn on any person to want to be more powerful or superior to someone else unless there was some psychic character within him or her that secretly felt itself to be weaker or lesser than that other individual.
Any action we take to appear strong before another person is actually read by that person as a weakness. If you doubt this finding, review the past interactions and results of your own relationships. The general rule of thumb is that the more you demand or crave the respect of others, the less likely you are to receive it.
So it makes no sense to try and change the way others treat you by learning calculated behaviors or attitude techniques in order to appear in charge. Stop trying to be strong. Instead, start catching yourself about to act from weakness. Don't be too surprised by this unusual instruction. A brief examination reveals its wisdom. Following are ten examples of where you may be secretly sabotaging yourself while wrongly assuming you're strengthening your position with others.
1. Fawning before people to wïn their favor.
2. Expressing contrived concern for someone's well being.
3. Making small talk to smooth out the edges.
4. Hanging onto someone's every word.
5. Looking for someone's approval.
6. Asking if someone is angry with you.
7. Fishing for a kind word.
8. Trying to impress someone.
9. Gossiping.
10. Explaining yourself to others.
The next time you feel yourself about to give in to any of the above behaviors, give yourself a quick and simple internal test. This test will help you chëck for and cancel any undetected weakness that's about to make you sabotage yourself.
Hëre's what to do: Run a pressure chëck.
Hëre's how:
Come wide awake and run a quick inner scan within yourself to see if that remark you're about to make, or the answer you're about to give without having been asked for it, is something you really want to do. Are you about to speak because you're afraid of some as yet undisclosed consequence if you don't?
Your awareness of any pressure building within you is proof that it's some förm of fear - and not you - that wants to do the explaining, fawning, impressing, blabbing, or whatever the self-sabotaging act the inner pressure is pushing you to commit.
Each time you feel this pressurized urge to give yourself away, silently but solidly refuse to release this pressure by giving in to its demands. It may help you to succeed sooner if you know that fear has no voice unless it tricks you into giving it one. So stay silent. Your conscious silence stops self-sabotage.
Special Summary: In any and every moment of your life, you are either in command of yourself or you are being commanded.
Excerpted from Design Your Destiny, Copyright 1999 - Guy Finley. Published by Llewellyn Publications
About the Author:
Guy Finley is the best-selling author of more than 18 books and tape albums on self-realization and higher success. His works, which have sold over a million copies worldwide and have been translated into ten languages, are recommended by doctors, ministers, and industry leaders. For information about Guy Finley's books, booklets, tapes, and helpful on-going study groups call (541) 476-1200 or visit
http://www.guyfinley.com where you can also sign up to receive a frëe, weekly Key Lesson.
SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE ARE DREAMERS
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Your dreams are your vision of where you'll be after the battle, your prize at the end of your journey to success. Your goals are the steps you take to finally attain your prize. Unless you're willing to work hard and establish some discipline in your life, all of your dreams will be pipe dreams, little mental fantasy trips that will never materialize. Make concrete steps toward fulfilling your ultimate dream, and start with solid objectives and goals. Your dreams are where you want to go, your goals are how you get there. The indispensable first step to getting the things you want out of life is this: decide what you want. Don't be afraid to think big and dare to be great. Dreamers are not content with mediocrity. They never dream of going halfway. People with goals succeed because they know where they're going.
©2005 by Max Steingart
Your dreams are your vision of where you'll be after the battle, your prize at the end of your journey to success. Your goals are the steps you take to finally attain your prize. Unless you're willing to work hard and establish some discipline in your life, all of your dreams will be pipe dreams, little mental fantasy trips that will never materialize. Make concrete steps toward fulfilling your ultimate dream, and start with solid objectives and goals. Your dreams are where you want to go, your goals are how you get there. The indispensable first step to getting the things you want out of life is this: decide what you want. Don't be afraid to think big and dare to be great. Dreamers are not content with mediocrity. They never dream of going halfway. People with goals succeed because they know where they're going.
©2005 by Max Steingart
Monday, November 21, 2005
Personal Tales
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Writing Your Story
Everyone, at one time or another, has wanted to express his or her story. Writing a memoir to read privately, share with family or friends, or publish is an emotionally satisfying way to gain perspective on your experiences while sharing your unique voice. We've all experienced feelings and events in our lives that we are longing to write down. Giving in to that urge can give you an outlet for purging any frustration, anxiety, or long-dormant feelings. No one else has to read it. You may even want to write your story without reading it right away. Satisfying the need to tell your story is not predicated upon your writing ability. It does, however take effort to write down the truth in detail. Your memories, captured on paper as descriptive scenes, sights, sounds, and scents, may at first seem disconnected or incomplete. But rest assured that you possess the ability to shape your recollections into stories.
Everyone wants to be heard. Reading your story to others can meet that need. Writing your story can also help you understand your life experiences. And when you finish writing, you may be surprised at what you have accomplished. Your story can encompass as much or as little of your life as you prefer. You may surprise yourself with new insights, or you may find yourself exploring your roots, your identity, and your future through your words. Allow your writing to guide you and write as truthfully as possible. Don't worry about what others will think of your personal journey, your style of writing, or your words.
Research has shown that writing a personal narrative filled with feelings and perceptions can create long-term health benefits. As you write, remember to have compassion for yourself, particularly when writing about traumatic events. If you are a young person, you can add to your life story as you grow older. Your writing may help family members know you better, or they may understand themselves more through reading about your experiences. More importantly, you are expressing yourself in a permanent way, giving a gift to yourself, and letting your voice be heard.
What do you think?
Writing Your Story
Everyone, at one time or another, has wanted to express his or her story. Writing a memoir to read privately, share with family or friends, or publish is an emotionally satisfying way to gain perspective on your experiences while sharing your unique voice. We've all experienced feelings and events in our lives that we are longing to write down. Giving in to that urge can give you an outlet for purging any frustration, anxiety, or long-dormant feelings. No one else has to read it. You may even want to write your story without reading it right away. Satisfying the need to tell your story is not predicated upon your writing ability. It does, however take effort to write down the truth in detail. Your memories, captured on paper as descriptive scenes, sights, sounds, and scents, may at first seem disconnected or incomplete. But rest assured that you possess the ability to shape your recollections into stories.
Everyone wants to be heard. Reading your story to others can meet that need. Writing your story can also help you understand your life experiences. And when you finish writing, you may be surprised at what you have accomplished. Your story can encompass as much or as little of your life as you prefer. You may surprise yourself with new insights, or you may find yourself exploring your roots, your identity, and your future through your words. Allow your writing to guide you and write as truthfully as possible. Don't worry about what others will think of your personal journey, your style of writing, or your words.
Research has shown that writing a personal narrative filled with feelings and perceptions can create long-term health benefits. As you write, remember to have compassion for yourself, particularly when writing about traumatic events. If you are a young person, you can add to your life story as you grow older. Your writing may help family members know you better, or they may understand themselves more through reading about your experiences. More importantly, you are expressing yourself in a permanent way, giving a gift to yourself, and letting your voice be heard.
What do you think?
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