Can we learn from THE SECRET to help our relationships?
How's it going with your relationships? Having any problems?
Well, a lot of people do, but it really doesn't have to be that way. Trust me, I know!
I'm not just talking about romantic relationships here. I'm talking about ALL your relationships - your family, friends, business colleagues, and yes, even the boss who doesn't want to give you a raise. At this stage you may be thinking that all you need to do to improve your relationships, is to give these people MORE of your own time and attention. But let me tell you a little secret...
YOU HAVE TO LOVE YOURSELF FIRST BEFORE YOU CAN LOVE ANY ONE ELSE!I can already hear you asking "But isn't this a bit selfish?" Actually, the answer is no. That's not the case at all. Let me explain,...
To love yourself first, means that you should:
have a healthy respect for yourself
give yourself some quality time and
start loving who you are
Maybe it is time to give yourself some credit for the things you do, and for the person you are. John Gray (bestselling author of "Men are from Mars, Women are From Venus") says something really interesting in THE SECRET DVD. He says: "Take time off to give to yourself. In a sense, to fill yourself up to fullness so now you can overflow in giving." In other words, if you don't have any love inside for yourself, how can you expect to give any love to anyone else? Consider this,...
Do you always put yourself last? or...
Do you sometimes neglect to ask what YOU really want? or...
Do you often do things for other people all the time at the expense of your own rest and pleasure?
You know, it is actually good and healthy for you to pamper yourself a bit. I don't mean to be self-indulgent, but to give yourself a little treat - go to the movies, lie on the beach for a day, buy a special book, swing in a hammock - just because you feel like it.
Once you start doing this, you will notice that magically, you will have a lot more
energy to deal with other people and to provide them with a lot more than you used to be able to. Just remember, the more you have, the more you can give. But, to be able to have more, you need to invest more time in yourself first. That is the secret! Here's another helpful hint from THE SECRET DVD that will help you.
Appreciate others and get the most out of them:
"Concentrate on only the positive aspects of those around you" Here's an easy way to do it...
Buy yourself a nice notebook
Then, make a list of ALL the positive aspects of the person that you are dealing with
And finally, keep focusing on those positive aspects for as long as you are in contact with that person
Pretty soon you will discover that your relationship with them will be even better than before (even if it was not all that great to start with). Do this with all the people you spend a lot of time with and you will save yourself a lot of heartache and despair. Believe me, ...... magic happens with this process if you practice it diligently. The people in your life will seem to be friendlier, more loving, and you will start feeling the same way about them. Somehow, this process is very contagious. And over time you will find that you will feel increasingly more loving towards yourself. Learning to love yourself first is often the hardest thing to do, but you need to remember that you can't show anyone else any real love if you don't have any love for yourself first. James Arthur Ray says it best... "How can you ever expect anyone else to enjoy your company if you don't enjoy your own company?"
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